Body Language GainingTrust

You’ve just moved to a new place and started a new job. Suddenly you’re meeting new friends, business acquaintances and all the other people that will now become part of your daily life. You want these people to know that you’re a person of character, of

But trust takes years to build. If only there was a way to jump start that trustbuilding process. Luckily, thanks to science and bodylanguage research there is.

As mankind evolved he relied mostly on his brain for survival. This reliance meant that humans had to be internally wired to see specific patterns or behaviors and then make extremely fast decisions based on what was observed. They had to know if that animal in the bush was a deer or a tiger and then make the correct decision on what do about it.

The wrong decision could be fatal. The humans that survived became exceptional at this, and still are in these modern times.

Although we don’t usually need to make those kinds of very fast survival decisions today, we still do. We can’t help it. What happens is when we encounter new stimuli – meet a new person for the first time – we instantly judge several things about that person… one of which is if he or she can be trusted.

This is done automatically before we even realize it using two parts of the brain called the amygdala and posterior cingulate cortex. We see other people, the brain reacts, and based on what you see at that time you will make decisions about the person that will be almost impossible to change in the future.

So what can you do to make sure that you will come across as someone that can be trusted? Follow these three secret body language moves to achieve instant trust. 1. Show Your Hands

Your hands are your trust indicators. The biggest thing you can do to build trust when you are meeting people for the first time is to make sure your hands are visible. I know that seems odd, but let me explain why.

Back in the old days when we were making those fight-or-flight decisions that lead to species survival, we came across many of our own kind too. At that point, we had to make the same 2. Expose Your Internal Organs

I don’t mean slice yourself open and let your internal organs out where everyone can see them. I mean keep your body in an open position as you are facing the person you are meeting and don’t have anything between you and them. No arms, books, bags, drinks, or anything 3. Give Genuine Smile

There are seven universal micro-expressions that are common across all cultures on earth. Of these micro-expressions, only one can be easily recognized from a long distance, and that is a genuine smile. It can be seen from 300 feet away or the length of a football field.

Considering the species survival information previously discussed… it seems being able to recognize a smile from that

split-second decisions as to whether these people were a danger or not. So we would first look at the hands to see if they were carrying a weapon, or hiding something. Once again this is something we still do today instantly and subconsciously and...