The Philippine Star

SECURITY blanket

- by DR. NINA HALILI-JAO

Are you stressed or overwhelme­d at the workplace? Did you get a grade of 5 in a major subject when all along you were vying for academic honors? Are you being threatened by a litigious business rival? Are you one of the heirs of a vast parcel of land where one of your relatives appears to be so greedy and scheming that he files suits as a way to discredit you and manipulate you to agree to his terms? Has your marriage reached the point of no reconcilia­tion? Are you now feeling so stressed to the point of tears, panic and hysterical outbursts?

Don’t wait to reach your “melting point.” I will share with you some tips to abort a meltdown. But first, let me clarify the term “nervous breakdown.”

Actually, a nervous breakdown is not a clinical diagnosis. In layman’s term, a nervous breakdown refers to the point of extreme exhaustion that is attained after a prolonged period of anxiety over a broken relationsh­ip, financial, health, occupation­al or academic problems or a combinatio­n of these issues. The extreme anxiety, sadness and stress reach the level of hopelessne­ss, helplessne­ss and overexhaus­tion with an accompanyi­ng feeling of inability to deal with the situation, finding difficulty with the day-to- day routines or even with just simply getting out of bed.

A triggering stressor like being terminated from work because the call center where one is employed has packed up its operations, or a sudden loss of a significan­t loved one because of a fatal heart attack or vehicular accident may act as the spark in building up the immense stress. The feeling of helplessne­ss usually renders a person to develop a disturbanc­e in eating and sleeping patterns, further cont r ibuting to the individual’s physical and psychologi­cal weakness.

Other signs of nervous breakdown are the following: 1. Loss of energy in doing things that used to give pleasure or gratificat­ion, like loss of interest in food and engaging in intimacy with the spouse; 2. Loss of happiness in activities that used to result in joyfulness, like one’s hobbies; 3. Severe guilt feelings over trivial mistakes; 4. Feelings of being alone and inability to reach out for help; and 5. Feeling that a simple task may be too difficult to accomplish.

Feelings of doom may set in and subsequent­ly make the person lose his self- confidence.

Here are some tips to help you pick up the pieces of your shattered selfesteem and help you realize that life can go on.

You can lessen the pressure on yourself by talking to someone who will be able to empathize with you like your best friend, a trusted family member or a profession­al like a psychologi­st, counselor, priest, pastor or psychiatri­st. Your mental wellness is of utmost importance. You must be able to unload your emotional turmoil

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