Chang­ing lo­ca­tions

The Philippine Star - - BUSINESS - FRAN­CIS J. KONG

I have a friend who works for a multi­na­tional com­pany. For a time, she was as­signed to work in Min­nesota. In a trop­i­cal coun­try like ours, we are fa­mil­iar with cities like San Fran­cisco, Los An­ge­les, Chicago, New York and even At­lanta or Hawaii. But have you ever vis­ited Min­nesota? One word can de­scribe it — COLD. I just got back from New York three weeks ago and to ev­ery­one’s sur­prise, it snowed. Even New York­ers were sur­prised. They said it’s still Fall but why the snow? On the first day, my son Bryan and I got there, and the tem­per­a­ture then was Zero de­gree centi­grade. It was cold and freez­ing, but this is noth­ing com­pared to the weather in Min­nesota.

Alan Smith tells a story about Ole and his farm lo­cated in Min­nesota.

Govern­ment sur­vey­ors came to Ole’s farm in the fall and asked if they could do some sur­vey­ing. Ole agreed, and Lena even served them a nice meal at noon time. The next spring, the two sur­vey­ors stopped by and told Ole, “Be­cause you were so kind to us, we wanted to give you this bad news in per­son in­stead of by let­ter.”

Ole replied, “What’s the bad news?” The sur­vey­ors stated, “Well, af­ter our work here, we dis­cov­ered your farm is not in Min­nesota, but is ac­tu­ally in Wis­con­sin!” Ole said, “That’s the best news I have heard in a long time! I just told Lena this morn­ing that I don’t think I can take an­other win­ter in Min­nesota.” I have heard peo­ple say:

“I can­not stand Metro Manila. I want to move some­where else so that I can have a bet­ter life. This city makes me sick!”

“Fran­cis, I want to quit my job be­cause I am no longer happy.”

“We have been mar­ried five years and I thought he would make me happy for the rest of my life.”

A hus­band speak­ing to a friend com­plain­ing about his frus­tra­tions on mar­riage said, “For our Twen­ti­eth An­niver­sary, I’m tak­ing my wife to Aus­tralia.” His friend says, “That’s go­ing to be tough to beat. What are you go­ing to do for your Twenty-Fifth An­niver­sary?”

The hus­band replies, “I’m go­ing to go back and get her.” Now, here is my ques­tion: Have you ever heard peo­ple say things like these or more im­por­tantly, have you ever found your­self say­ing the same things? Would a change of res­i­dence, a change of em­ploy­ment, or even a change of a per­son in a re­la­tion­ship make you hap­pier?

This funny story re­minds me that many peo­ple think they would be hap­pier if they were liv­ing some­place, work­ing some­where, or liv­ing with some­one else (“The grass is al­ways greener on the other side” would make them happy). Many ac­tu­ally made the change and they still end up dis­ap­pointed.

They think that a change of lo­ca­tion or en­ter­ing into an­other re­la­tion­ship will fix their prob­lems. They feel mis­er­able in their job or neigh­bor­hood and they want to es­cape. Ev­ery­thing would be so dif­fer­ent if they just lived some­where else. They may be sur­prised to know that change to a per­son is not as pow­er­ful and long last­ing as what change is in the per­son.

The truth is that chang­ing lo­ca­tions usu­ally doesn’t change any­thing be­cause the big­ger prob­lem is of­ten not in the world around us, but within us. While it is true that there are cir­cum­stances we can­not con­trol, my ex­pe­ri­ence tells me that if I change my­self, then my cir­cum­stances im­prove.

I worked for a very dif­fi­cult boss. St­ingy with salary, worked me like a horse and never showed ap­pre­ci­a­tion for the work I’ve done. His fa­vorite ex­pres­sion was, “Is that the best you can do?” As I started my ca­reer, I had no choice but to stick to work­ing for him. At least I had the sense to un­der­stand that I lacked the com­pe­tence, skills and ex­per­tise to be mar­ketable to oth­ers in the in­dus­try. Look­ing back, I re­al­ize that the few years with him stretched me and forced me to get into a crash course of skills and com­pe­tence-build­ing that helped me de­velop sharp and as­tute skills I still find use­ful to­day.

Read­ing books of Zig Ziglar and Jim Rohn, they changed my per­spec­tive. Rohn says, “Your suc­cess in life is not de­pen­dent on the econ­omy; your suc­cess in life is de­pen­dent on your phi­los­o­phy.” And then he con­tin­ued by say­ing, “Suc­cess is not what you have or what you do, but what you at­tract be­cause of the kind of per­son you have be­come.” Ziglar says, “If you are not will­ing to learn, no one can help you. But, if you are de­ter­mined to learn, no one can stop you.” And so, I em­barked on a jour­ney of non-stop learn­ing. I did not have to change my lo­ca­tion, nei­ther could I change my boss. I changed my­self and the way I look at life, then ev­ery­thing changed, in­clud­ing my lo­ca­tion, my boss and my work. Here is my last story for to­day. Have you ever been to an Amish com­mu­nity? City dwellers can­not last long in that com­mune. But look at the way they look at their life and lo­ca­tion.

The Amish owner of the car­riage ob­vi­ously had a sense of hu­mor, be­cause at­tached to the back of the car­riage was a hand printed sign: 1. En­ergy ef­fi­cient ve­hi­cle. 2. Runs on oats and grass. 3. Cau­tion: Do not step on ex­haust. That’s how it is. Change your­self and ev­ery­thing changes.

(Mark your cal­en­dars on Jan. 25, 2019 for the muchawaited event “Power Up for Peak Per­for­mance”! It will be happening at the Sam­sung Hall, SM Aura, BGC. This whole-day event fea­tur­ing a power-packed cast of fan­tas­tic speak­ers will take place from 9:00 a.m. to 5;00 p.m. For fur­ther in­quiries or ad­vanced reser­va­tions, con­tact April at +63928-559-1798 or reg­is­ter on­line at

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