FIRST-TIME CHECK­LIST

CLEO (Singapore) - - ADULTING -

Here are a few things to think about as a cou­ple when you de­cide it’s time to start hav­ing sex, from Dr Martha Lee.

Safety first

Don’t be afraid to talk about your re­spec­tive sex­ual his­to­ries. Women are at least two times more likely to con­tract an STI (sex­u­ally trans­mit­ted in­fec­tion) than men, so it’s up to both of you to take a proac­tive in­ter­est in your sex­ual health and con­tra­cep­tion.

Set re­al­is­tic ex­pec­ta­tions

Sex usu­ally im­proves as you get to know some­one and be­come more com­fort­able with each other’s bod­ies. The first time is usu­ally not as mind-blow­ing as you might like it to be, so don’t feel pres­sured to make it the best night ever. Think of it as the first of many to come.

Still that mind

It’s easy to be­come anx­ious when try­ing any­thing new for the first time – let alone sex! Try to still your in­ter­nal voice by fo­cus­ing on your breath­ing and the sen­sa­tions run­ning through your body.

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