The Fi­nal De­par­ture

Clubpets - - YOUR PET & YOU -

A pet is as much a family mem­ber or a best friend as any hu­man can be, so it is ab­so­lutely nor­mal that you find it hard to cope with the loss of your fur kid.

You wel­come them home like you would a mem­ber of the family, you cel­e­brate their birthdays, you carry their pic­ture in your wal­let and they be­come your shoul­der to cry on. They love you un­con­di­tion­ally, without giv­ing you any rea­son to fear for judge­ment or re­jec­tion on their part.

It is no won­der that you feel an over­whelm­ing heartache when your pet de­parts the world, leav­ing you be­hind.

The pain of los­ing a pet is real and should not be triv­i­alised. Yet, it is not com­mon that people are given the same amount of time and space to mourn their furry com­pan­ion as they would be granted with a hu­man coun­ter­part. The lack of com­pas­sion may make it harder for you to cope with your pet’s demise, but we have iden­ti­fied some steps you could take in the hopes that they help you through this tough time.

Give your­self time to grieve

Keep­ing your­self busy to avoid hav­ing to think about your sor­row may seem like an ef­fec­tive cop­ing mech­a­nism, but it will only be coun­ter­pro­duc­tive. Hiding your emo­tions or try­ing to run away from them does not make them go away, and while there is no dead­line for when you have to “get over” your loss, not let­ting your­self feel sad may pro­long the griev­ing process.

Like­wise, if you know some­one who is mourn­ing the death of their pet, the best you can do is be there for them as a pair of lis­ten­ing ears or help­ing hands. Overzeal­ously try­ing to cheer them up, while you mean well, could make them feel like it is not right for them to be as up­set as they are.

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