BATTLING THE BABY BLUES

Having a baby is a major life transition that can cause abrupt physical, social and emotional changes. This, of course, can significantly affect one’s mental health.

Postpartum depression is a form of depression that occurs within the first year after childbirth, explains LINDA VAN LAER, a counsellor who specialises in pre- and postnatal therapy. At Alliance Counselling, she and the team of pre- and postnatal counsellors have an in-depth understanding of the needs of new and expecting parents.

She says that for some mothers, postpartum depression develops immediately. For others, it develops only after additional stressors are added to the mix, such as their return to work, illness or a loss – or, indeed, a pandemic! “Up until 2020, Singapore reported a gradual decline in the number of mothers who sought support for postpartum depression. However, since the pandemic, cases of postpartum depression have been rising both in numbers and in severity. This is likely due to an increase in social isolation, financial worries and other stressors.”

Other triggers that can exacerbate the condition include lack of sleep, relationship problems, lack of social support, work stress, difficulties during pregnancy or childbirth, breastfeeding problems and caring for a baby who is unwell.

The mix of contributing factors will be different for each mother who experiences postpartum depression, as will the symptoms, which may include the following:

• tearfulness

• mood swings

• irritability

• feeling “down”

• fatigue

• trouble sleeping

• feelings of helplessness or worthlessness

• trouble bonding with baby

• thoughts of harming yourself or your baby • guilt • anxiety

These symptoms can range from mild to severe and make it difficult to cope with daily life. Luckily, it’s possible to feel better with the right support, explains Linda.

“A counsellor can provide a safe and non-judgmental space where you can share your unique experience, address your emotions and discover what works best for your specific case. This may include strategies for self-care, engaging your support network, improving relationships and reducing work stress.”

Additionally, she says the counsellors at Alliance can help you strengthen your bond with baby, improve your selfconfidence as a mother and process any difficult or traumatic experiences that may have occurred during pregnancy or birth. The practice also facilitates Mindful Mums – a free, monthly support group where parents can share their stories and realise they’re not alone.