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TELL HIM! Paula*, 34, a journalist, says: “My y husband Nathan* is a great lover, so I didn’t t understand why he needed a minute-byminute review of his performance. After the sixth time, I playfully asked if he could be quiet. I told him, very seriously, that he was excellent in bed and pleaded with him to stop asking me questions. I also gently warned him that all that talk would give us both performance anxiety.” IT WORKED! Paula says: “I realised Nathan had been insecure because I was more sexually experienced than him. He felt reassured after our talk and now, instead of questioning me, he pays attention to physical cues – such as my breathing, the warmth of my skin and my moans – to know if I’m enjoying myself. He also seems more confident in bed since being told he’s a stud!”