GOOD SEX = GOOD MARRIAGE?

How much action are you getting between the sheets, and is it enough to keep your marriage alive?

While we may not all have the luxury of trading sleep for sex like Victoria Beckham, that doesn’t mean we aren’t burning up the sheets. So just how much action are we getting, and is it enough to keep our marriages alive? SASHA GONZALES nds out.

I s being happy in bed the key to a happy marriage? Ask most relationship experts and they will answer in the affirmative.

“Good sex is very much related to trust, friendship and all aspects of a relationship that create and build emotional connection,” explains Ho Shee Wai, psychologist and director of The Counselling Place. Sex is an expression of the intimacy between a couple, as you can’t get any closer, at least physically, to another person, she adds. “So if you feel good about your sex life, then you’ll feel good about your relationship in general.”

So where does the frequency of sex come in? And does it wane depending on how long you’ve been together? Must you have sex a certain number of times a month for your sex life to be considered “good”? If you have sex more often than your friends, does that make you happier? What’s considered good sex, anyway?

What is good sex?

Shee Wai says good sex reects your emotional connection with your spouse, and the affection and respect you have for each other.

“If you and/or your husband don’t feel good about the interaction, then you can probably dene it as poor-quality sex. But we encourage couples to look at sex more broadly – that means seeing it as encompassing gestures like kissing, hugging, holding hands and snuggling.”