Got a relationship problem? Our man about town, Jason Godfrey, is here to help.
My fiance wants to quit his day job to start his own business. I want to support him, but I’m worried we’ll lose our financial security if the whole thing flops. Am I being selfish, and do I need to get past my own hang-ups?
You’re not being selfish, you’re just worried. And rightly so, as many new businesses don’t succeed. But that being said, starting your own business can lead to a much more fulfilling life. The key here is to help your fiance manage the financial risks. You don’t need to pour your own capital into a new business. Find other ways to get money, or ways to start the business on a smaller scale before going the whole hog and mortgaging the house. In any case, you guys are in this together, so make decisions with each other, and support each other even when you have doubts. A little support from a spouse can go a long way. I never know what to expect on a first date, and I’m always nervous about screwing it up. What’s the secret to having a great one and getting a callback for a second date?
Have a drink before the date. Yes, really. No one’s asking you to get completely sloshed – just get buzzed enough to relax, so you can get comfortable with being yourself. If you’re nervous and watching everything you say, that insecurity will stop you from being you at your best. If that’s not your jam, try speed dating. Think of it as drills that help you get comfortable with meeting new people. After all, practice makes perfect, right?
My boyfriend and I have been dating for two months. I found out that he recently Instagram DM’ed a female friend and complimented her photo, saying she looked really pretty in it. I know he used to have a thing for her. Why would he do that, and should I bring it up? Men with girlfriends probably shouldn’t be sending DMs to old crushes to tell them how pretty they look. Maybe I’m just old-fashioned like that. Casually bring it up to see if he was messaging her because he needed a favour, and the compliment was just a tactic to re-engage. If there’s no good reason, and complimenting women on Insta is just a thing of his, you might wanna move on.
My husband splurges on stuff like action figures, collectibles and video games. I think they clutter our house and are a waste of money. How do I get him to stop?
You can’t stop the boys’ toys. You might as well accept that they’ll just keep on coming. The best you can hope for is containment. This is why man caves exist. Give him his own space to indulge his collectible fetish and display all his beloved action figures. You may not understand his love of toy robots and painting them new colours, but he doesn’t understand some of the things you spend your money on either. Everyone has different interests, and as long as boundaries are drawn and your home doesn’t look like the storeroom of a collectibles shop, it’s all good.
Oooh, you look really good… or is it the bubbly talking?