Three Tips

Becoming a mother is more than just physical and emotional transformation. It’s a full-on identity overhaul! Sleepless nights and endless nappy changes are a far cry from your old self – and, no matter how excited you are, it can be hard to reconcile your new 24-7 role as “Mum”. Here, TANJA FAESSLER-MORO, coach and counsellor at Counsellingconnectz, shares three helpful mindsets for transitioning into your brand new identity.

1 REMEMBER THAT YOU MATTER

Baby, family, partner, work… It all matters and it all needs your attention. But, while juggling everyone else’s needs, remember to include your own!

Work some self-care into your routine – whether that’s taking a long bubble bath, doing yoga or getting your hair done because it makes you feel good. Carving out some time to reset and reconnect with yourself is crucial to your mental health.

2 FORGET “RIGHT” AND “WRONG”

The beauty of motherhood is that we all do it differently. Instead of asking what’s “right”, ask yourself, “what’s working?” Reframing your mindset in this way and focusing on the positives can really go a long way in keeping you sane, and curbing any feelings of failure before major mum guilt sets in.

3 STAY FLEXIBLE

Returning to work after maternity leave can be heart wrenching. But don’t beat yourself up. Keep expectations humble and drop the guilt!

If anything, you’ll be a better employee for it. You might be more exhausted than ever before, but your multitasking abilities are off the charts!

New motherhood is challenging, but with a little patience, it’s also a uniquely beautiful time. Talking to a counsellor can be helpful in managing your feelings and looking after your emotional wellness.

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