7-9 YEARS OLD Not ev­ery­thing you hear about the angsty tween years is true. We bust some com­mon mis­con­cep­tions.

Your friends’ ex­pec­ta­tions of what seven-year-olds can and can­not do may make you feel anx­ious about your kid. DR RICHARD C. WOOLF­SON busts com­mon myths that you should dis­card.

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Your seven-year-old has started school, prob­a­bly at­tends lots of af­ter-school en­rich­ment or tu­ition classes as well, and has lots of friends.

In your dis­cus­sions with other par­ents of chil­dren this age, you’ll have heard many so-called “facts” about tweens, from their be­hav­iour to manag­ing new is­sues as they grow up.

It’s nat­u­ral that you may some­times feel frus­trated that your kid isn’t be­hav­ing as “ex­pected”, but that may be be­cause the be­liefs you hold true are ac­tu­ally myths.

Here are 10 com­mon mis­con­cep­tions about Pri­mary 1 kids that you should dis­pel.

They are re­silient

MYTH 1 and quickly re­cover from any stresses.

TRUTH Much de­pends on your child’s in­di­vid­ual per­son­al­ity and char­ac­ter­is­tics. It’s a mis­take to as­sume, for ex­am­ple, that yours will be un­af­fected by parental ar­gu­ments or fam­ily be­reave­ments, or that she’ll quickly get over them. She is not as re­silient as you think.

They need to be

MYTH 2 kept busy at all times when they are not at school.

her leisure in­ter­ests. But don’t overdo it be­cause she also needs free time. If you over-or­gan­ise her out-of­school ac­tiv­i­ties, chances are she’ll lose even­tu­ally tire of them and lose in­ter­est.

They are too

MYTH 3 young to be trusted with re­spon­si­bil­ity.

TRUTH You cer­tainly can give your pri­mary schooler some re­spon­si­bil­i­ties, as long as they are not too de­mand­ing. For ex­am­ple, she can be in charge of tidy­ing her room ev­ery night, or of clear­ing the dishes from the table af­ter your fam­ily’s evening meal.

Their friend­ships

MYTH 4 are al­ways tran­sient and tem­po­rary.

TRUTH Not all friend­ships are sta­ble at this age, and your child’s best pal to­day might be for­got­ten by her next month. Yet your kid can make peer-group re­la­tion­ships which will last through­out her child­hood and into adult­hood. Some friend­ships per­sist over the years.

They are too old

MYTH 5 for hugs and kisses.

TRUTH Your child needs as much at­ten­tion and af­fec­tion as she did when she was younger. Of course, she may be em­bar­rassed when you kiss and cud­dle her in front of her pals, but she’ll still be happy to re­ceive your warmth and love in pri­vate at home.

They aren’t MYTH 6 ma­ture enough to share their toys or sweets.

TRUTH Shar­ing isn’t easy at any age – be­cause it re­quires your child to give some­thing away while po­ten­tially get­ting noth­ing back in re­turn – but she does know how to share. If she re­sists, it’s be­cause she sim­ply wants to keep ev­ery­thing for her­self.

They still be­lieve

MYTH 7 in Santa Claus.

TRUTH While a few kids this age still be­lieve in those myth­i­cal fig­ures, chances are that yours know they don’t ex­ist in real life. She learns this from her older sib­ling or from other pupils in the play­ground. Yet, that doesn’t stop her ask­ing for Christ­mas presents.

They are not

MYTH 8 both­ered or up­set by teas­ing.

TRUTH Teas­ing hurts at any age. True, your child might not show any vis­i­ble re­ac­tion when one of her pals makes fun of her new hair­cut or laughs at her be­cause her pen­cil box isn’t the lat­est fad. How­ever, she will hurt in­side at such com­ments be­cause she wants to be liked.

They are too

MYTH 9 young to learn man­ners and po­lite­ness.

though they take great de­light in mak­ing rude noises from their var­i­ous ori­fices. This is a use­ful time to teach your seven-year-old good man­ners, and to ex­plain how po­lite­ness puts every­one at ease.

They don’t

MYTH 10 un­der­stand the value of money.

TRUTH Your kid has the cog­ni­tive abil­ity to un­der­stand that things cost money and that money is lim­ited. Un­less you give her ev­ery­thing she wants, she’ll learn the value of money quite quickly when she has to make choices about pur­chases.

Tweens un­der­stand the need for po­lite­ness, even though they take great de­light in mak­ing rude noises from their var­i­ous orices.

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