Young Parents (Singapore) - - Contents -

When it comes to dis­ci­pline meth­ods, new par­ents to­day have a buf­fet of choices, from more tra­di­tion­ally au­thor­i­tar­ian ones to new-agey ones like emo­tion coach­ing.

But all ev­ery ex­as­per­ated mum or dad deal­ing with the 100th tantrum of the week wants to know is: Tell me what works!

It isn’t a one-size-fits-all so­lu­tion, I’m afraid. Be­cause ev­ery child is dif­fer­ent, what works for your first­born may not cut it for your sec­ond kid.

In our Dis­ci­pline Is­sue, we take a look at strate­gies for the tod­dler set and show you how they work for the same sce­nar­ios, so you have a bet­ter idea of the fine dif­fer­ences (page 40).

We also tackle com­mon mis­takes par­ents of­ten make when dis­ci­plin­ing preschool­ers (page 44), and show you how to change your strat­egy when your kids en­ter the angsty tween years (page 48).

One thing our ex­perts do agree on, what­ever the age: Dis­ci­pline is not pun­ish­ment. In­still­ing fear in your child won’t teach her how to be­have suc­cess­fully in life, and may have se­ri­ous ef­fects down the line.

Nei­ther does dis­ci­pline mean that your kid is per­fect or happy all the time. As long as you’re dis­ci­plin­ing with love, rather than in anger, I reckon you’re on the right track.

Stephanie Yeo

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