strike a bal­ance

Young Parents (Singapore) - - Age By Stage 7-9 Years -

Strug­gling to cope with your spouse’s hec­tic trav­el­ling sched­ule? Try these tips – they work for both the trav­el­ling par­ent and the one left be­hind.

Don’t see your spouse’s trav­el­ling as “free time” for them

“This will only feed the re­sent­ment and jeal­ousy you’re feel­ing to­wards them,” says fam­ily ther­a­pist Anoushka Beh.

In­stead, think about how dif­fi­cult it is for your spouse to jug­gle travel with fam­ily life.

Don’t feel like you need to be “su­per­mum” or “su­per­dad” when you’re fly­ing solo

Give your­self the free­dom to break some rules. No time to cook? Order take­out or head to a fast­food joint. Need some shut-eye? Give the kids a few min­utes of TV time. Most im­por­tantly, don’t feel guilty.

Build a strong sup­port sys­tem Hire

a re­li­able helper and rope in grand­par­ents, aunts, un­cles and friends to di­vide the du­ties.

Use tech­nol­ogy to keep in touch

“Reg­u­lar, con­sis­tent and re­li­able lines of com­mu­ni­ca­tion fa­cil­i­tate con­nec­tion be­tween chil­dren and the par­ents who are away,” Anoushka says.

“Par­ents and chil­dren should also be given a dis­trac­tion-free space in order to talk as much as pos­si­ble to sup­port this com­mu­ni­ca­tion.”

Find a pos­i­tive spin on things

Ap­pre­ci­ate your spouse even more when he is around. When he is away, pen­cil in some “me-time” after the kids go to bed or get a babysit­ter on week­ends so you can have a break.

Trav­el­ling par­ents should spend qual­ity time with their fam­ily when they’re at home. Do as many fun things as pos­si­ble.

De­cide if trav­el­ling is right for your mar­riage

Be pre­pared to change the sta­tus quo if it doesn’t seem to be work­ing out.

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