strike a balance
Struggling to cope with your spouse’s hectic travelling schedule? Try these tips – they work for both the travelling parent and the one left behind.
Don’t see your spouse’s travelling as “free time” for them
“This will only feed the resentment and jealousy you’re feeling towards them,” says family therapist Anoushka Beh.
Instead, think about how difficult it is for your spouse to juggle travel with family life.
Don’t feel like you need to be “supermum” or “superdad” when you’re flying solo
Give yourself the freedom to break some rules. No time to cook? Order takeout or head to a fastfood joint. Need some shut-eye? Give the kids a few minutes of TV time. Most importantly, don’t feel guilty.
Build a strong support system Hire
a reliable helper and rope in grandparents, aunts, uncles and friends to divide the duties.
Use technology to keep in touch
“Regular, consistent and reliable lines of communication facilitate connection between children and the parents who are away,” Anoushka says.
“Parents and children should also be given a distraction-free space in order to talk as much as possible to support this communication.”
Find a positive spin on things
Appreciate your spouse even more when he is around. When he is away, pencil in some “me-time” after the kids go to bed or get a babysitter on weekends so you can have a break.
Travelling parents should spend quality time with their family when they’re at home. Do as many fun things as possible.
Decide if travelling is right for your marriage
Be prepared to change the status quo if it doesn’t seem to be working out.