Failing our kids when it comes to sex education
Teens need to learn more than just about birds and bees in classroom
IREMEMBER my 16-year-old self sitting in a life orientation class when my teacher said: “Why would he buy the cow when he’s getting the milk free of charge.” This is the standard of sex education that many young women in South Africa have come to know, an appraisal of abstinence and celibacy with little attention given to anything else.
The nature of sex education has always been very conservative with strong ties to religious orthodoxy. Not only do teachers avoid issues relating to body changes, safe sex and termination of pregnancies, they also avoid veering from heteronormative conventions.
Little research, time and effort is put into trying to understand pupils’ sexuality and the challenges they might face.
Biology teachers would teach the reproductive system in a detached way, as if we weren’t talking about our own body parts and life orientation teachers, while mandated to give a “holistic approach to the personal, social, intellectual, emotional, spiritual, motor and physical growth and development of pupils” held on to their conservative views that often left pupils uninformed and vulnerable to abuse or disease.
What potential consequences could this lead to:
Many young people are unaware of how their bodies work during puberty and after puberty heading into adulthood. Knowing their own body and knowing what’s healthy and harmful gives learners a sense of independence. Meaning that when body changes happen, they would be more aware if this is a healthy or a harmful response.
This could be vital in preventing the growth of disease and infections. Women who are encouraged to do self-examinations on their breasts are able to detect anything out the ordinary.
Teenagers and young adults who have no reliable source of reference for what sex is tend to rely on distorted sources of information such as the media, unrealistic movie “rules” and even pornography, the latest of which is considered extreme and convey toxic messaging. Sources like these are focused on harmful sexual ideals that prioritise the dominance of men and the submission of women for their pleasure. With imagery of male aggression, women are seen to be devoid of autonomy. This could lead to women having uncomfortable and unpleasurable sexual encounters.
Ignorance around how pregnancy and reproduction works contributes to South Africa’s alarming rate of teen pregnancies. Partners in Sexual Health reports 30% of South African teens aged 15 to 19 have attested to being pregnant. The majority were between 18 and 19. Pregnancy affect learners differently depending on their age. The older they are, the less likely they will return to complete their schooling. Young girls who leave school, even for a short period, are at risk of poor school performance, failing a year or dropping out. These statistics are made worse by the inaccessibility to protection against unsafe sex.
Young men and women are especially vulnerable to rape and other sexual violences when they feel ignorant about their own bodies and are oblivious to their rights.
Having open and honest discussions about your body, sex and consent can give young adults the power to call out violations and report them.
It's a common assumption that to speak about processes relating to sex encourages young people to be sexually active. The reality is teenagers will be exposed to sex practices, whether it be from media or peers. Comprehensive sex education makes sure they are informed to make safe decisions and are capable of knowing when their rights or human dignity have been infringed.
A greater understanding not only makes the classroom more relevant and engaging but works at shifting community attitudes.
It creates an environment where the community are brave enough to set aside their own beliefs to give an informed and supportive understanding to young persons.
Bawa is an intern in the Sustained Dialogues programme at the Institute for Justice and Reconciliation.