The more positivity we generate, the more we will attract into our lives
IT’S time to change your perspective. Have you ever started the day on the wrong foot and noticed that the rest of the day spirals more and more negatively?
Do you find that if you simply smile or wave at someone on your morning walk, you tend to have a lighter morning? Did you know that the mind is such a powerful tool we create our own realities? (Obviously only to a certain degree.) The more positivity we generate, the more we attract. The same goes for negativity.
There are a few rules though. The first is that we cannot just say something and expect it to happen. It is a belief. For example, we cannot say we are going to have a good day and expect it to brighten. We have to have a firm belief in it. If we don’t, all this will do is exacerbate our latent negativity and attract more. Life owes you nothing. If you want something, you need to work for it. If you want love, you need to give love. If you want money, you need to work for money.
The first mistake we made was raising girls to believe that they would one day meet a handsome prince, he would save her from turmoil and they would live happily ever after. Girls, you do not need a prince to rescue you. Maya Angelou made a bold statement about having your own back. If you wait for your prince, he will either never emerge or he will disappoint you.
I am not saying that you should not escape with a Mills & Boon novel or a Netflix romcom. All I am stipulating is that it is make-believe, and if you compare your life to books and movies, you will become disillusioned and depressed.
This has been a year of uncontrollable negativity. Many people have been retrenched, have had salary cuts and have had to make rather drastic changes to their lifestyle. Schooling, taxes, bonds and loans have remained the same but our income has been reduced radically. This has placed strains on marriages, families and workplaces. There has been no such thing as loyalty; life has unfortunately become about survival of the fittest. Which is difficult for empaths like myself when we look at work with a utopian-like optimism.
The harder it has become, the less positivity we have, but if we shift our mindset, no matter how challenging the climb may appear, we might find it easier to tackle.
Think of it as climbing Mount Everest naked and barefoot. We have no chance at all. If we wear thermal clothing, hydrate and make the necessary stops, the climb won’t be easy but it will be more probable. It starts with expectations. If we have expectations, we are setting ourselves up for disappointment. However, if we change our expectations to goals, we are in control of our destiny, and we hope for the best rather than expecting it.
Life is about living in the present with no expectations. Nobody owes us anything. If we choose to be a giver in life, we need to do it selflessly. If we give and expect to be treated the same in return, we are not “giving”.
Giving is defined as bestowing generosity without expecting compensation or reciprocation. By giving, we do receive but not in the same way we think or give. We receive gifts of true abundance: the twinkling stars, our vitality, the trees that give us oxygen, the sun that gives us light and warmth, our children, our shelters, water, food, clothing to keep us warm.
Simply focus on a centred thought and say: “Today I behold all the abundance that surrounds me.” By acknowledging our inner voice, we immediately will feel blessed. We also have to believe that it will go full circle. In order for this to happen, we are required to let the positivity flow effortlessly. This has been a year of hardship.
The angrier we feel the harder it will become. We cannot help feeling resentful but we can transform our anger into a different emotion on the same vibrational frequency.
When we are angry, we cannot suddenly become calm. What we can do is turn the energy compounding our anger into motivation. Getting things done that we haven’t had the energy to do. Our new vibration will be accomplishment, then contentment and then calm. Just like when we are anxious, we cannot expect to be peaceful. We can, however, transform our anxiety into excitement.
I know that we cannot be calm or at peace when there is a pandemic surrounding us, lives are affected and earthquakes are becoming more frequent, but we cannot live in fear. The sooner we relinquish things beyond our control and prioritise our focus, the more relaxed we will feel and, by relaxing, our quality of life will improve.
In a nutshell, live honestly, love fully and forgive completely.