What does it mean to be masculine today?

SO WHEN when it comes to abuse you know society mainly blames men.

Well, we’re here to tell you we disagree and we understand all points of view, including the struggles boys and men have to endure.

I mean ladies, imagine you’re born into a universe where you become so confused and your gender is known to inherit a delayed learning progression. You feel that you’re a victim of people’s accusations and you’re always treated as the villain.

And you’re always thinking to yourself among many other mind-boggling ideas that you’re somehow related to violent incidents, and that somehow you cause them. You ask yourself: “Why do I feel obligated to do things I regret later?”

Well ladies, this is the way guys feel and we could write blogs on this topic.

Guys actually do have emotions, but for some of them it’s all hammered down because they don’t exactly know how to express their emotions.

They stick to the allusion that masculinity is demanded to be seen as a man. Ask yourself this question “what does it mean to be masculine?”

Doesn’t it mean to act a certain way, just like women are delegated to behave in a certain manner, but we are quick to judge and accuse guys of being stereotypes while we have a clear idea of how they should behave.

We should not be hypocrites. We usually define guys as dominant, controlling, physically strong, sexually frustrated, fibbers, misleaders and persuaders, among many other females out there, right?

But how do they actually relate to us? So you see, just like us they also have feelings, they also experience abuse, they also feel like crying for no reason, and their heart aches even worse than ours for having no one to confide in and not knowing how to handle these emotions.

Ladies are called emotional only because we express our feelings so freely, guys are extremely emotional as well, they just don’t have the courage to open up.

Here are a few statements we have collected from men, who chose to remain anonymous, on how they actually feel:

“Men are susceptible and act dominant to those they feel are weaker than they are like women, but also toward other weaker men who are considered feminine.

"We consciously or unconsciously will dominate because we feel we have the right to. Society does not treat us equally.”

"I would define us as the protectors, carers, providers, suppliers (food, shelter, love).

"There are many denouncements made of men that I totally disagree with such as the rumour that implies that we don’t have emotions, this isn’t true! We have deep emotions and we should be allowed to express them. We need to show our feelings as well, and we are usually called ‘girly’ if we do.

“I mean who’s to say that we don’t like cleaning or cooking, I admit that I also like flowers. Society creates a perception of males and females forcing us in a way to act like we don’t agree or like something just because we come from a certain gender and we feel herded… this isn’t fair.”

“Men feel that women shouldn’t overpower them and if she were to show any signs of trying to rule in a house or area and should a man be violent towards her, he justifies himself by accusing her of trying to rule and possess him.”

To end off, we’d like a share with you a quote we found from the Roman Emperor (161 TO 180) Marcus Aurelius, who said: “Waste no more time arguing about what a good man should be. Be one.”

‘Waste no more time arguing about what a good man should be. Be one’