When a Hot Sitch Goes Cold
‘I met James at a bar; he was the hottest guy I’d ever seen. We started talking, and eventually he invited me over to his place. I was like, “This guy’s hot, let’s do this!” Turns out, he did nothing vaguely interesting for me – he didn’t even take my shi
Grab his hand and put it on a no-fail hot spot, such as your breast, and say, ‘I like to be touched right here.’ Or show him how it’s done with your own hands. This shifts his focus easily and effectively without killing the sexy vibe.
HALT T HE A CTION
If you want to remove yourself from a selfish experience – and do so with minimal drama – speak your piece clearly, says Stubbs: ‘I was feeling this earlier, but now I’m not so into it. I had fun but I need to go.’
GIVE F EEDBACK
Constructive criticism postromp can up the odds that next time (if you want one) will be better. ‘Say, “I liked when you were stroking me here,”’ suggests Queen. Then give a tip: ‘But I’m not crazy about having my ass grabbed.’