THE RE­LA­TION­SHIP'S NEEDS

Cosmopolitan (South Africa) - - LOVE -

One-On-One At­ten­tion

When you irst meet some­one great, there’s a lot of ‘Come meet my new BF or GF’ hangs – at birth­day par­ties, bars, fam­ily func­tions, etc. You’re tech­ni­cally out to­gether, but you’re not re­ally spend­ing the time with each other. It’s im­por­tant to add some ‘just the two of us’ pri­vacy to the mix so you get enough qual­ity bond­ing time, which so­lidi ies that you’re both choos­ing to face life (and all its events) as a united pair.

On­go­ing Arousal

‘In the be­gin­ning of a re­la­tion­ship, we of­ten have a lot of spon­ta­neous de­sire,’ says Kerner. ‘But as things progress, you might have to gen­er­ate some arousal be­fore de­sire kicks in.’ Put e…ort into en­sur­ing your li­bidos stay in sync by sneak­ing lirty notes in bae’s wal­let be­fore they head out for the day, turn­ing around and wink­ing at them af­ter kiss­ing them good­bye, or pulling them back into bed on a lazy Sun­day morn­ing.

Reg­u­lar Check-Ins

There’s a rea­son your team at work has reg­u­larly sched­uled meet­ings. It’s a good op­por­tu­nity for you and your co-work­ers to check in, speak up and make plans for the fu­ture. Cou­ples need them too, says Na­gler. Plan a monthly catch-up ses­sion to com­pare your cal­en­dars (and per­haps plan a ro­man­tic get­away?), and share your thoughts on and ex­pec­ta­tions for the re­la­tion­ship (like what would have to hap­pen in or­der for it to progress to the next step).

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