YOUR PARTNER'S NEEDS
Respect for Their Home
Before you start rearranging everything, here’s a reality check: this is your partner’s space, not yours. It’s okay to speak up and say you’re grossed out by the dirty dishes in the sink, says Kerner, but do so in a constructive way (for example, ‘Having a clean place is really important to me’). Tidy up after yourself too.
When bae has had a crappy day at work or is going through drama in their personal life, be there for them, says Nagler. Rather than add to the negative vibe with complaints of your own, o er a positive point instead.
Alone Time, the Sequel
You may not like it, but your boo-thang needs some hours spent without you too. Whether they use that time to see friends or family, hit the gym, nap or just have a poo is irrelevant – it’s not a sign they’re less into you. Besides, taking someone away from their favourite people or hobbies breeds resentment that can kill a great connection. Choose your battles carefully – and remember that a little time apart makes you better together. ■
‘On the count of three, let’s attempt to disconnect’