Ever had a friend moan at you about how stressed she is and you choose to respond with your own impossibly busy schedule? Me too. All the time. But as a colleague recently pointed out to me, we’re often so caught up with being busy, we tend to completely lose sight of the tasks that are really worthy of our time. Like the dream you once had to be your own boss, or to move overseas and chase that big-city job. And among all that busyness, have you ever felt like you’re going to crash and burn? I have. In this issue, we chat to fashion business owner Poppy Jamie, who experienced a Millennial burnout at 26. She shares with us how it all happened and, more importantly, how to make sure it doesn’t happen to you.
As we shift into a new year, many of you will be thinking about your goals. But the thing about goals is that they often seem impossible. I recently listened to a podcast by the former marketing director of American Apparel, Ryan Holiday, called ‘How To Deal In High-Stress Situations’. It helped me tremendously. In it he talks about how we all fall prey to A-to-Z thinking – obsessing about Z, and forgetting about
A to Y. The giant obstacle of Z can make you anxious, but as you feel that anxiety rise, face it and say ‘no thank you, I can’t afford to panic’, he says.
One thing I’ve learned in my role as editor of COSMO is that panic simply isn’t helpful. Rather apply reason and try to defeat your emotion with logic. Do you need to freak out about this? Is the world going to end? The answer, almost always, is no. Flip the obstacle into an opportunity. And when it comes to your goals, approach them in achievable stages. Instead of focusing on the difficult Z, exist in the present, take it one step at a time, and follow a process – not the prize. If you do this, even mammoth endeavours become a series of manageable tasks. This year, my wish for all of you is to go out there, achieve your goals and live your best life, because you can and you will. Breathe. Do. Repeat.