Goal-Getter

Cosmopolitan (South Africa) - - EDITOR’S LETTER - Holly Mead­ows Ed­i­tor

Ever had a friend moan at you about how stressed she is and you choose to re­spond with your own im­pos­si­bly busy sched­ule? Me too. All the time. But as a col­league re­cently pointed out to me, we’re of­ten so caught up with be­ing busy, we tend to com­pletely lose sight of the tasks that are re­ally wor­thy of our time. Like the dream you once had to be your own boss, or to move over­seas and chase that big-city job. And among all that busy­ness, have you ever felt like you’re go­ing to crash and burn? I have. In this is­sue, we chat to fash­ion busi­ness owner Poppy Jamie, who ex­pe­ri­enced a Mil­len­nial burnout at 26. She shares with us how it all hap­pened and, more im­por­tantly, how to make sure it doesn’t hap­pen to you.

As we shift into a new year, many of you will be think­ing about your goals. But the thing about goals is that they of­ten seem im­pos­si­ble. I re­cently lis­tened to a pod­cast by the former mar­ket­ing di­rec­tor of Amer­i­can Ap­parel, Ryan Hol­i­day, called ‘How To Deal In High-Stress Sit­u­a­tions’. It helped me tremen­dously. In it he talks about how we all fall prey to A-to-Z think­ing – ob­sess­ing about Z, and for­get­ting about

A to Y. The gi­ant ob­sta­cle of Z can make you anx­ious, but as you feel that anx­i­ety rise, face it and say ‘no thank you, I can’t af­ford to panic’, he says.

One thing I’ve learned in my role as ed­i­tor of COSMO is that panic sim­ply isn’t help­ful. Rather ap­ply rea­son and try to de­feat your emo­tion with logic. Do you need to freak out about this? Is the world go­ing to end? The an­swer, al­most al­ways, is no. Flip the ob­sta­cle into an op­por­tu­nity. And when it comes to your goals, ap­proach them in achiev­able stages. In­stead of fo­cus­ing on the dif­fi­cult Z, ex­ist in the present, take it one step at a time, and fol­low a process – not the prize. If you do this, even mam­moth en­deav­ours be­come a se­ries of man­age­able tasks. This year, my wish for all of you is to go out there, achieve your goals and live your best life, be­cause you can and you will. Breathe. Do. Re­peat.

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