A lot of talk about the fairer sex having it all

WASHINGTON: Professional women of all types – bankers and lawyers and bureaucrats – are taking to the internet to freak out, or at the very least, ponder, the dreaded third rail of feminism, thanks to a viral story in the Atlantic magazine that asks: Can women have it all?

The July/August cover story, published last week, was written by Anne-Marie Slaughter, a 53-year-old former State Department official and mother of two who asks how one can hold down a demanding, high-stress job while raising a family. It’s a worry that plagues women in high-powered careers, for whom work is often an option or obsession, not an obligation. Her conclusion is that the privileged subset of working American women might not achieve the balance they yearn for unless they push for changes in society.

The masses took to Facebook and Twitter, starting a digital conversation about the difficulties of balancing work and family. A range of reactions followed.

“I think I wrote, ‘If Anne-Marie Slaughter, the woman who wrote New World Order, is telling me I can’t have it all, that’s just depressing,” said Emily Sandler, 25, a non-profit fund-raiser from Redondo Beach, California, who shared the piece on Facebook. “If it can’t work for her, how will it ever work for us lesser mortals?”

“It scared me, but men should be scared, too, because work-life balance is a human problem, not just a woman problem,” said Veronica Percia, 27, a lawyer in Boston.

Even men joined the chatter. Richard Gurley, 33, a managing director at a health-care start-up in the District, e-mailed it to his fiancee. “What was most interesting to me was the conversation it was generating in a public way,” he said. “It didn’t seem like anything she said was new, but she said it very publicly.”

According to Atlantic spokeswoman, Natalie Raabe, the piece has attracted nearly 725 000 readers to the Atlantic’s website, and by Sunday it had been recommended on Facebook 119 000 times, making it the most “liked” Atlantic piece ever.

In an age of unemployment, global debt crises and sky-high college debt, a public debate over how elites can find fulfilment in career and home might seem quaint, even a bit self-absorbed, like an Eat, Pray, Love for the Davos set.

ABut the article’s impact and nuances have resonated among both men and women.

“I know that relative to the vast majority of American women, I have it all and more, but within my group of well-educated, privileged women, there’s a lot that’s wrong,” Slaughter said. “I do think there was this vast silent majority of women who were dying to have someone speak for them, to say that men and women can have the careers they want and the families they want if we make changes.”

For the past few years, the Atlantic, along with magazines such as New York and Time, have explored so-called women’s issues, publishing rigorously researched essays that accompany personal narrative.

The stories go viral, and are often accompanied by provocative cover shots, such as Time’s breast-feeding cover, or doomsday titles such as The End of Men by the Atlantic’s Hanna Rosin – shared 43 000 times on Facebook. Or Kate Bolick’s All the Single Ladies, shared 55 000 times since November.

“We certainly know our readers react strongly,” said James Bennet, editor-in-chief of the magazine.

Slaughter acknowledges that her article can be “painful to read”.

“We get a huge range of reactions, but I wouldn’t put fear at the top of the list,” Bennet said.

“Our hope is to start the conversation… I really think you can read these pieces as talking to each other over the years.

“Even a woman like Anne-Marie Slaughter is wrestling with the same questions. She’s suffering from the same agonising trade-offs, feeling the same sense of compromise.”

“At one point, I tweeted, ‘Why can’t I make people this passionate about foreign policy?’” Slaughter said, laughing. – Washington Post