Who is the modern man?
WHO IS THIS MYTHICAL CREATURE CALLED “MODERN MAN”? HE ‘S SENSITIVE, YET STRONG; POWERFUL, BUT KIND AND NURTURING. HE’S NOT JUST A WHIMSICAL IDEAL – HE REALLY EXISTS – BUT HE HAS A LOT OF EXPECTATIONS TO LIVE UP TO
He’s the child who knows when to abandon the comforts of boyhood and leap boldly into manhood. This process is no joke and the things Mommy used to put up with just won’t cut it in his role as the modern man. He must wield his way through the intense furnace which is the road to manhood and leave the tantrums behind.
Attempting to write an article about this is my own proof that that fabled and treacherous path exists. Raised by a Middle Eastern single mother, I can relate to boys who have an insanely close bond with their moms. As awesome as that is during childhood and adolescence, this becomes our kryptonite when we face becoming men.
Being “mothered” is confounded by the global epidemic of single-mother families. Raising kids alone is a mammoth task for moms, but it also leaves the boys without a father figure who can give them the manly affirmation that they crave. I never got a fatherly pat on the back and, quite frankly, it left me lacking something. The result is a recipe for creating little boys who are trapped in men’s bodies. They’re not going to cope out in the world, where throwing your toys isn’t tolerated.
If you don’t realise that you’re suffering from prolonged boyhood, becoming a “modern man” will be a frustrating experience and you won’t be rewarded
LITTLE BOYS WHO ARE TRAPPED IN MEN’S BODIES WON’T COPE OUT IN THE WORLD, WHERE THROWING THEIR TOYS OUT OF THE COT ISN’T TOLERATED.
with sweeties and hugs. We have to find our own way of discovering the caveman inside us and accepting that the feminine can bring more than just nurturing: it can also bring balance into our relationships with ourselves and others. Only now – at the age of 42 – have I emerged from boyhood and started my journey into manhood, leaving some hard mistakes in my wake.
One thing’s for certain: women are getting stronger in the most beautiful way, so men had better grow up and mothers had better stop babying their boys, thinking it’s the right thing to do. If there’s no man in the equation, who can show the little boy that he’ll need to let go of his mommy’s leg one day?
John Sanei is a trend specialist, business innovation strategist, speaker, author and entrepreneur working with clients across industries and around the world. Visit: johnsanei.com