Who is the mod­ern man?

WHO IS THIS MYTH­I­CAL CREA­TURE CALLED “MOD­ERN MAN”? HE ‘S SEN­SI­TIVE, YET STRONG; POW­ER­FUL, BUT KIND AND NUR­TUR­ING. HE’S NOT JUST A WHIM­SI­CAL IDEAL – HE RE­ALLY EX­ISTS – BUT HE HAS A LOT OF EX­PEC­TA­TIONS TO LIVE UP TO

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He’s the child who knows when to aban­don the com­forts of boy­hood and leap boldly into man­hood. This process is no joke and the things Mommy used to put up with just won’t cut it in his role as the mod­ern man. He must wield his way through the in­tense fur­nace which is the road to man­hood and leave the tantrums be­hind.

At­tempt­ing to write an ar­ti­cle about this is my own proof that that fa­bled and treach­er­ous path ex­ists. Raised by a Mid­dle East­ern sin­gle mother, I can re­late to boys who have an in­sanely close bond with their moms. As awe­some as that is dur­ing child­hood and ado­les­cence, this be­comes our kryp­tonite when we face be­com­ing men.

Be­ing “moth­ered” is con­founded by the global epi­demic of sin­gle-mother fam­i­lies. Rais­ing kids alone is a mam­moth task for moms, but it also leaves the boys with­out a fa­ther fig­ure who can give them the manly af­fir­ma­tion that they crave. I never got a fa­therly pat on the back and, quite frankly, it left me lack­ing some­thing. The re­sult is a recipe for cre­at­ing lit­tle boys who are trapped in men’s bod­ies. They’re not go­ing to cope out in the world, where throw­ing your toys isn’t tol­er­ated.

If you don’t re­alise that you’re suf­fer­ing from pro­longed boy­hood, be­com­ing a “mod­ern man” will be a frus­trat­ing ex­pe­ri­ence and you won’t be re­warded

LIT­TLE BOYS WHO ARE TRAPPED IN MEN’S BOD­IES WON’T COPE OUT IN THE WORLD, WHERE THROW­ING THEIR TOYS OUT OF THE COT ISN’T TOL­ER­ATED.

with sweet­ies and hugs. We have to find our own way of dis­cov­er­ing the cave­man in­side us and ac­cept­ing that the fem­i­nine can bring more than just nur­tur­ing: it can also bring bal­ance into our re­la­tion­ships with our­selves and oth­ers. Only now – at the age of 42 – have I emerged from boy­hood and started my jour­ney into man­hood, leav­ing some hard mis­takes in my wake.

One thing’s for cer­tain: women are get­ting stronger in the most beau­ti­ful way, so men had bet­ter grow up and moth­ers had bet­ter stop baby­ing their boys, think­ing it’s the right thing to do. If there’s no man in the equa­tion, who can show the lit­tle boy that he’ll need to let go of his mommy’s leg one day?

John Sanei is a trend spe­cial­ist, business in­no­va­tion strate­gist, speaker, au­thor and en­tre­pre­neur work­ing with clients across in­dus­tries and around the world. Visit: john­sanei.com

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