HIS FAMILY HATES ME
QI’m 23 years old and I have a child. My boyfriend really loves me and our son, and in October he’s coming for the lobola negotiations.
I’m working and he’s helping me with the child as well but his family hates me. They even say they hate their son because he loves me. He keeps telling me he’s not giving up on us but I feel really bad for him because I know he’s hurt by the way they’re treating him.
Is there anything I can do to make things better? LM, EMAIL
AYour boyfriend is stuck between a rock and hard place. He’s torn between you and his family because both of you are important in his life and he loves you both.
I must commend you for the support you’re giving him. Don’t give up on him because he’s assured you he’s not giving up on you. Your support is all he needs right now.
Since you’re not yet part of the family I suggest you let the family sort themselves out. They might change their minds about the way they treat him when they realise he’s serious about your relationship.
If they persist, you can suggest that your boyfriend seeks the assistance of a family counsellor to help him deal with this.