I’m so in love with my woman that I get jeal­ous all the time. I can’t help my­self and I feel bad when I see her speak­ing to other men. Surely my jeal­ousy is just a sign that I love her? But she doesn’t see it that way and I’m afraid I’m going to lose her. Please help. SMS, MK She’s in a re­la­tion­ship with you, and as long as she doesn’t give you rea­son to doubt her, you shouldn’t be jeal­ous when she talks to other men. You make it sound as if she can’t be her own per­son and in­ter­act with other peo­ple be­cause only you can love her. Be­ing pos­ses­sive and want­ing to own her is not a sign of love.

When you truly love some­one you let that per­son be them­selves in the re­la­tion­ship and just love them for who they are and the good they bring with them. It’s not good if you feel the need to suf­fo­cate the per­son and not let them live their own lives.

An overly pos­ses­sive na­ture can be dan­ger­ous and can lead to abuse of the per­son by the one who claims to love them so much. Guard against that hap­pen­ing. Talk to a pro­fes­sional about how you’re feel­ing so you can get guid­ance on how to deal with jeal­ousy when it man­i­fests.

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