RETURN OF THE EX
There are different reasons former couples get back together, says Johannesburg social worker Nthabiseng Madikgetla.
Fear of the unknown People are fearful of what life will be like without the person they dated. When the relationship ends, the person becomes afraid of a new beginning.
Hope for change They may be holding on to the hope they can work things out and have a different experience the second time around.
Peer and family pressure People may go back to an ex because everyone around them is telling them they’re a match made in heaven. The family and friends may say things like how good they looked together, how giving their ex another chance won’t be such a bad idea or that they gave up too soon.
Pressure from the ex Someone who’s unable to stand up for themselves and see their decision through may be easily persuaded to change their mind if the right amount of pressure is put on them.
History of the relationship Good memories can make someone go back to their ex. A person may feel indebted because their ex supported them through a tough experience.
Benefits of the relationship People go back to an old relationship because they feel they’re not getting what they used to get from the old relationship. If the partner was providing them with financial or emotional support it’s common to go back because of those benefits.
Secrets between the couple People are likely to go back to their former partners if their exes know something about them that if told, could destroy their life.