All about Jub Jub’s new show, Uya­jola 9/9

A shock­ing pa­ter­nity rev­e­la­tion rocked view­ers in Uya­jola 9/9’s first episode. DRUM finds out more about this grip­ping new re­al­ity show

DRUM - - Contents - BY THOLAKELE MNGANGA

TEARS, beat-downs, ac­cu­sa­tions of ram­pant cheat­ing and even an il­le­git­i­mate child thrown into the mix. No, it’s not an episode of Amer­i­can talk show Cheaters but our very own ver­sion – and it’s reel­ing in view­ers hook, line and sinker.

When South Africans watched the first episode of Moja Love’s new show Uya­jola 9/9 they were ex­pect­ing the drama and the cheat­ing, but even the most hard­core view­ers were shocked by the rev­e­la­tions.

A con­cerned Se­bo­keng hus­band wrote to the show claim­ing his wife of 21 years was hav­ing an af­fair.

Af­ter an in-depth in­ves­ti­ga­tion by host Jub Jub and his crew, it was re­vealed the wife wasn’t only cheat­ing, her grown first­born son, Themba, was the re­sult of a long-term af­fair she’d been hav­ing with a neigh­bour down the street.

This not only shocked the hus­band but left the son, who looks ex­actly like the neigh­bour, with a lot of ques­tions. Themba re­fused to ac­cept the man who’d raised him wasn’t his fa­ther and view­ers were en­raged at how the wo­man’s dark se­crets had turned so many lives upside down.

“Themba and his dad on #Uya­jola are car­bon copies y’all,” one tweep wrote,

while an­other added that they “get it when men say when a woman cheats it cuts them deep”.

The hour-long pre­miere of the show was so pop­u­lar it trended for two whole days. One of the pro­duc­ers, Tshidi Maphat­soe, says the uniquely South African take on Cheaters has been in the works for a year.

“We’ve put in a lot of hard work and end­less hours to pro­duce such a show so we’re ex­cited for peo­ple to see what we’ve done,” she tells DRUM.

It wasn’t an easy show to pro­duce as it cen­tres on ex­pos­ing peo­ple’s big­gest se­crets. “There are a lot of le­gal­i­ties we have to deal with so we must be cau­tious.”

This in­cludes mak­ing sure ev­ery­one who ap­pears on the show gives their permission to take part and there’s also a need to pro­tect peo­ple on the show from dan­ger.

“We had to sit down af­ter ev­ery episode and send it to our lawyers as well as DStv so we could get the go-ahead to put it on air,” she ex­plains. “If any­thing isn’t within the law, we won’t put it on air.”

JUB Jub, real name Molemo Maaro­hanye, has been lauded for his calm demeanour and sym­pa­thetic na­ture on the show. “I’m telling you, it’s not for the faint-hearted,” he says. “As you can imag­ine, do­ing a show like this takes a lot of courage as you’re deal­ing with peo­ple’s lives and their pain on a daily ba­sis.”

He co-pro­duces the show with Tshidi, who’s full of praise for the hip-hop artist.

“He re­lates well with ev­ery­one on the show and it helps that he’s a peo­ple per­son.”

Fans will see Jub Jub grow in the role as he learns how to calm fran­tic par­tic­i­pants down and help them deal with the re­al­ity of their part­ners’ cheat­ing, she

adds. “He re­ally brings some­thing spe­cial to this show.”

Steps have been taken to en­sure the safety of ev­ery­one on the pro­gramme, Tshidi adds. “We al­ways have se­cu­rity avail­able on the premises be­cause these are peo­ple’s lives.”

In the first episode, body­guards had to in­ter­vene a num­ber of times as the hus­band and son tried to at­tack the man who was hav­ing an af­fair with the wife.

The show’s man­age­ment doesn’t only pro­tect par­tic­i­pants from phys­i­cal harm though – help is also pro­vided to deal with the af­ter­math.

“If there’s some emo­tional dam­age we make sure to get them help, whether it be mar­riage coun­selling or what­ever they need.”

She says this is done to en­sure “we don’t go in there try­ing to ex­ploit their lives – we al­ways give back”. But not ev­ery­one ac­cepts the help. “To those who want it, we of­fer it,” Tshidi says. “If you see the episodes you re­alise how emo­tional this show is and there are some who say af­ter­wards, ‘I’m not there yet and I don’t need it’. But we tell them they can come back to us at Moja Love for help any­time.

“We al­ways ex­tended our hand be­cause we don’t ever want to leave their lives in sham­bles.”

FANS might be lap­ping up the drama on Uya­jola 9/ 9 but there are con­se­quences to such pub­lic ex­po­sure, life coach and re­la­tion­ship ex­pert Amanda Ndiki says. “By go­ing on such a show, you know some­thing is go­ing on but you haven’t been will­ing to ac­cept it,” she says.

Ap­pear­ing on the show isn’t a so­lu­tion, Ndiki says – in fact, in some cases the cheat­ing part­ner might want re­venge or cheat even more.

And for the other part­ner, ex­pos­ing the cheater on TV in no way deals with your prob­lems. You have cho­sen to stay in a re­la­tion­ship that’s emo­tion­ally abu­sive and de­grad­ing, and in­stead of con­fronting your part­ner head-on, you air all your dirty laun­dry on na­tional tele­vi­sion.

She adds that when it comes to dis­cussing in­fi­delity in re­la­tion­ships, both par­ties must be pre­pared for it and not be “am­bushed”.

“They also need to be ready to go for coun­selling – you can’t force it on them just be­cause one per­son has been ex­posed. Peo­ple need time.”

Af­ter the cou­ple has been on the show their re­la­tion­ship dy­nam­ics will never be the same, Ndiki says, and they’ll have to find ways to move for­ward.

They each must find a way to heal and that heal­ing will prob­a­bly take place alone. “You can’t force heal­ing to­gether. Both par­ties must, on their own, de­cide what they want as in­di­vid­u­als and only then can they think about what’s next for their re­la­tion­ship.”

The show is opening a can of worms peo­ple might not be ready to con­front, Ndiki be­lieves.

“And the wounds will go deep. There’s no quick-fix so­lu­tion.”

ABOVE: Jub Jub is well-liked as the an­chor of the Moja Love show that ex­poses cheaters.

RIGHT: Jub Jub also co-pro­duces the lo­cal re­al­ity show.

FAR LEFT to LEFT: Uya­jola 9/9’s pilot made for dra­matic view­ing: A man (MID­DLE) found out his wife has been cheat­ing on him for years with a neigh­bour (LEFT).

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