TIPS FOR ON­LINE DAT­ING

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Older peo­ple gen­er­ally don’t en­joy dat­ing apps or the ex­pe­ri­ences they have through them all that much, Jo­han­nes­burg life coach Lin­delwa Khoza says. This is be­cause these plat­forms “are aimed at the needs of younger gen­er­a­tions who care more about phys­i­cal ap­pear­ance and who tend to spend an in­or­di­nate amount of time on­line”.

Khoza says dat­ing sites aimed at those over 55 tend to be repack­aged ver­sions of the prod­ucts de­vel­oped with younger peo­ple in mind. As a re­sult, these apps and sites don’t ac­knowl­edge the fun­da­men­tal dif­fer­ences in the re­la­tion­ship needs of older versus younger peo­ple.

Then there’s the risk of be­ing scammed. Dur­ban psy­chol­o­gist Carol-Ann Dixon says she’s had a num­ber of clients in ther­apy who’d fallen in love with some­one on an on­line plat­form only to dis­cover later that the per­son had been after their money all along.

“Wi­d­ows and wid­ow­ers are soft tar­gets,” she says. If you’re con­sid­er­ing on­line dat­ing, be care­ful about how much you share on your pro­file, Dixon ad­vises.

“I would ad­vise get­ting help from a younger friend who knows more about it.”

When it comes to your first face-to-face meet­ing, make sure it’s in a pub­lic place.

Sug­gest meet­ing for cof­fee so you have the op­tion of cut­ting the date short if it doesn’t go well, you feel un­com­fort­able or just know this per­son isn’t for you.

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