TIPS FOR ONLINE DATING
Older people generally don’t enjoy dating apps or the experiences they have through them all that much, Johannesburg life coach Lindelwa Khoza says. This is because these platforms “are aimed at the needs of younger generations who care more about physical appearance and who tend to spend an inordinate amount of time online”.
Khoza says dating sites aimed at those over 55 tend to be repackaged versions of the products developed with younger people in mind. As a result, these apps and sites don’t acknowledge the fundamental differences in the relationship needs of older versus younger people.
Then there’s the risk of being scammed. Durban psychologist Carol-Ann Dixon says she’s had a number of clients in therapy who’d fallen in love with someone on an online platform only to discover later that the person had been after their money all along.
“Widows and widowers are soft targets,” she says. If you’re considering online dating, be careful about how much you share on your profile, Dixon advises.
“I would advise getting help from a younger friend who knows more about it.”
When it comes to your first face-to-face meeting, make sure it’s in a public place.
Suggest meeting for coffee so you have the option of cutting the date short if it doesn’t go well, you feel uncomfortable or just know this person isn’t for you.