HOW DID YOU SCORE?

Add up how many of each colour you cir­cled, then read the sec­tion of the colour you cir­cled the most. If you have more than one high-scor­ing colour, read all per­ti­nent sec­tions, as you may be a com­bi­na­tion of types.

DRUM - - Advice -

IF YOU’VE CIR­CLED MAINLY RED, YOU’RE THE PEACE­MAKER

You’re a nat­u­ral diplo­mat who can see two sides to every story and come up with a compromise. You’re the one who’s most likely to in­ter­vene dur­ing con­flict. You’re seen as a wise soul and your siblings of­ten come to you with their prob­lems.

Peace­mak­ers are of­ten mid­dle chil­dren, or the old­est si­b­ling who grew up with bick­er­ing younger ones. Your nat­u­ral diplo­macy means you’re com­fort­able ­so­cially and you are a good team player.

HOW IT HOLDS YOU BACK

You’re in­clined to put yourself last and ne­glect your needs, so your well­be­ing can be­come com­pro­mised. You can end up feel­ing resentful and tired, es­pe­cially dur­ing con­flict, and you’re prone to anx­i­ety.

LOS­ING THE LA­BEL

Be­ing com­pas­sion­ate doesn’t have to mean be­ing a peo­ple-pleaser. Re­duce the time you spend lis­ten­ing to per­sonal dra­mas and sug­gest the rel­e­vant par­ties talk to one another di­rectly. Take a step back.

IF YOU’VE CIR­CLED MAINLY BLUE, YOU’RE THE BABY

You may be the youngest, or the only boy or girl, and were doted on. It’s left you with self-be­lief and the knowl­edge that your fam­ily will al­ways be there to ­sup­port you.

They ac­cept you un­con­di­tion­ally and, as an adult, you know you can turn to them for ad­vice or prac­ti­cal and fi­nan­cial help. This safety net lets you take risks and ­follow your dreams.

HOW IT HOLDS YOU BACK

You can be chaotic and strug­gle with sel­f­re­liance. You’re fussed over so you could feel claus­tro­pho­bic. You may be pa­tro­n­ised by older siblings or on the ­re­ceiv­ing end of re­sent­ment be­cause you have it eas­ier.

You might strug­gle with re­spon­si­bil­ity or have high ex­pec­ta­tions in re­la­tion­ships and of­ten feel let down.

LOS­ING THE LA­BEL

Self-dis­ci­pline is key. Learn to man­age your emo­tions and think about con­se­quences be­fore you act. If your fam­ily is your over­draft, check your spend­ing. Self­suf­fi­ciency will help you have more re­al­is­tic ex­pec­ta­tions in re­la­tion­ships too.

IF YOU’VE CIR­CLED MAINLY GREEN, YOU’RE AN EN­TER­TAINER

You’re com­fort­able be­ing the cen­tre of at­ten­tion be­cause you grew up as the per­former of the fam­ily. You’re pop­u­lar, ­so­cia­ble and funny: you quickly learnt that mak­ing your par­ents laugh got you spe­cial at­ten­tion, so you carved out your role ­ac­cord­ingly.

En­ter­tain­ers of­ten come from large fam­i­lies or have high-achiev­ing ­siblings they feel they can’t com­pete with.

HOW IT HOLDS YOU BACK

It’s of­ten dif­fi­cult to be taken se­ri­ously and you feel pres­sure to al­ways be in a good mood. De­spite your con­fi­dence, you can feel in­se­cure and find yourself strug­gling when you’re down.

It an­noys you that peo­ple ­as­sume life is easy for you and that they don’t ap­pre­ci­ate the ef­fort you put in.

LOS­ING THE LA­BEL

Peo­ple need to get used to you tak­ing a back seat. The only way to do that is to zip it of­ten. Step out of the lime­light and give oth­ers a chance to shine.

IF YOU’VE CIR­CLED MAINLY ­OR­ANGE, YOU’RE THE ROCK

You’re the fam­ily achiever – or­gan­ised and suc­cess­ful. You’re of­ten the first­born and were given re­spon­si­bil­ity for younger siblings. You’re the one who plans fam­ily events or puts ef­fort into mak­ing them spe­cial.

As a child you thrived on approval from your par­ents and as an adult you may have trans­ferred that need to your boss, which can make you a con­sci­en­tious em­ployee.

HOW IT HOLDS YOU BACK

It seems as if your siblings get all the at­ten­tion while you qui­etly get on with life. You’d like peo­ple to ask how you are rather than as­sum­ing your life is prob­lem-free.

You can feel taken for granted. Fu­elled by your need for approval, you may be prone to ­anx­i­ety and sen­si­tive to crit­i­cism.

LOS­ING THE LA­BEL

Con­sci­en­tious­ness can get you far, but there’s a fine line be­tween that and per­fec­tion­ism, which over­whelm you.

If you’re about to ac­cept more ­re­spon­si­bil­ity but re­ally don’t want to, try a soft no by say­ing, “I’ll think about it.”

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