Empowered Youth Magazine - - NEWS - HAPPY RIKHOTSO.

We are on our 6th Is­sue and our 6th month of 2018, ladies and gen­tle­men. I carry with me all the lessons I have learnt in May. Some came to me as dis­ap­point­ments, but most came as bless­ings. I am that one per­son whose pas­sion lies on mak­ing sure that ev­ery­one around is peace­fully happy. With me hav­ing such con­fi­dence that I made ev­ery­one happy and was ap­pre­ci­ated by many, I ran­domly found my­self drown­ing in the dis­ap­point­ment and asked my­self ques­tions that I had no an­swers to.

This note may be some­how per­sonal, but it is what I would love to share with you and is ded­i­cated to all my friends. Through friend­ship, I have taken paths that paved me to be­ing a fo­cused per­son I am today. Through friend­ship, my spir­i­tual life was re­vived and my be­lief level has gone up. Friend­ship is not al­ways about club­bing, gos­sip and ma­te­ri­al­is­tic things, but be­ing there for each other spir­i­tu­ally and emo­tion­ally. It is a form of in­ter­per­sonal bond than as­so­ci­a­tion.

Through­out the pre­vi­ous years I had many friends and now that I have de­cided to choose whom to as­so­ciate my­self with and my level of ma­tu­rity grow­ing, half of those I was close to walked out of my life. As I al­ways tell peo­ple that I never live with re­grets, yes I do not re­gret not try­ing to bring them back into my cir­cle for I feel at ease now. Cer­tain friend­ships are not do­ing okay due to se­crets and bad mouthing whilst one claims to be a true friend, but we just refuse to cut them off be­cause we feel that we have been best friends for so many years even though we are see­ing the down­falls.

It is re­ally im­por­tant to get to a point where you are able to an­a­lyse sit­u­a­tions and ac­tu­ally make a de­ci­sion that will be fair to your­self. It may end that you be­come the one to blame for the fail­ure of your friend­ship with some­one be­cause of your re­ac­tions af­ter you have an­a­lysed the whole sit­u­a­tion. There is no need to ex­plain or try to prove that you are not guilty at all. Some­times it is okay to just let peo­ple talk and spread neg­a­tive ru­mours about you. They may start mak­ing jokes about your per­sonal cri­sis that you shared with them, as they kind of know what shuts you down. That is ab­so­lute im­ma­tu­rity. Some­one who talks bad about the same per­son he/she hangs around with, is not worth your trust. Do you know what is be­ing said about you when you are not around?

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