Instead of facing up to things, you tend to shove them to the back of your mind and distract yourself with other activities, from shopping to socialising. This means you never learn healthier ways to deal with worry.
Your goal To learn that while worry isn’t pleasant, you can cope with it. Your psych fix ‘ Try to do things you don’t want to do, such as going to the gym when you’re tired,’ says Dr Leahy. ‘ Then write down how uncomfortable you felt when you did these things, and how you felt about yourself afterwards – for example, more in control. The more you learn that discomfort can be productive, the more you’ll stop avoiding it.’ Your life fix Learn to ‘be’ with your thoughts. Try switching off your phone and meditating on something positive.