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THE AVOIDANT

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In­stead of fac­ing up to things, you tend to shove them to the back of your mind and dis­tract your­self with other ac­tiv­i­ties, from shop­ping to so­cial­is­ing. This means you never learn health­ier ways to deal with worry.

Your goal To learn that while worry isn’t pleas­ant, you can cope with it. Your psych fix ‘ Try to do things you don’t want to do, such as go­ing to the gym when you’re tired,’ says Dr Leahy. ‘ Then write down how un­com­fort­able you felt when you did these things, and how you felt about your­self af­ter­wards – for ex­am­ple, more in con­trol. The more you learn that dis­com­fort can be pro­duc­tive, the more you’ll stop avoid­ing it.’ Your life fix Learn to ‘be’ with your thoughts. Try switch­ing off your phone and med­i­tat­ing on some­thing pos­i­tive.

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