I can no longer care for my dad
QFor the past six years, my sister and I have been caring for our father who has vascular dementia. Before that, we also looked after our mother who has Alzheimer’s. She’s now in a home. We are at the end of our tether with our dad and really would like him to be there, too. We met with a social worker a couple of weeks ago and said we can no longer cope and she mentioned it to my dad. He said no, this was his home. She says we should go on coaxing him but, when we bring it up, he says he’s not interested.
ACaring for someone with dementia can be so difficult and exhausting. The social worker was wanting to involve your dad and seek his consent. Tell your dad you need a break and maybe he’ll accept a short stay in respite care – you could ask if the home caring for your mom could offer this. If he still refuses a permanent placement, you’d at least get some time off. For more advice and information, visit dementiasa.org