I can no longer care for my dad

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QFor the past six years, my sis­ter and I have been car­ing for our fa­ther who has vas­cu­lar de­men­tia. Be­fore that, we also looked af­ter our mother who has Alzheimer’s. She’s now in a home. We are at the end of our tether with our dad and re­ally would like him to be there, too. We met with a so­cial worker a cou­ple of weeks ago and said we can no longer cope and she men­tioned it to my dad. He said no, this was his home. She says we should go on coax­ing him but, when we bring it up, he says he’s not in­ter­ested.

ACar­ing for some­one with de­men­tia can be so difficult and ex­haust­ing. The so­cial worker was want­ing to in­volve your dad and seek his con­sent. Tell your dad you need a break and maybe he’ll ac­cept a short stay in respite care – you could ask if the home car­ing for your mom could of­fer this. If he still re­fuses a per­ma­nent place­ment, you’d at least get some time off. For more ad­vice and in­for­ma­tion, visit de­men­ti­asa.org

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