Money mat­ters

Fairlady - - YOUR SAY -

In the ar­ti­cle ‘Yours, mine, ours’ [July, 2018], I was sur­prised to see that none of the cou­ples shared an ac­count – although I haven’t come across any­one who be­lieves me when I say my hus­band and I do!

In our sec­ond year of mar­riage, we saw a coun­sel­lor. My hus­band was un­em­ployed at the time, yet he had no debt, whereas I was drown­ing in debt. We’d been split­ting ex­penses down the mid­dle. She ex­plained that mar­riage is a union – and if it is, would it not ap­ply to our money too? Shortly af­ter that my hus­band found work and I be­gan to see the fruits of com­bin­ing our in­come. I also learnt that I needed to re­spect his in­come and live within my means. His monthly ‘sav­ings’ quickly paid off all my debt, for which I’m very grate­ful.

Six years later, we still share an ac­count. We also have a sav­ings ac­count. If there’s some­thing ex­pen­sive that we want to treat our­selves to, we dis­cuss it be­fore shelling out.

Com­bin­ing our money has taught me to live with­out some lux­u­ries, and has taught him that it’s okay to spend money on ‘wants’ ev­ery now and then. Tamsin Tyson

Ed: That sounds per­fectly re­solved to me. Money is of­ten a source of re­sent­ment – it’s great that you’ve learnt to make it work for you as a cou­ple.

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