Sex

Your 60-minute sex over

Glamour (South Africa) - - Contents -

Keep quiet

Keep go­ing for longer with a bit of sen­sual de­pri­va­tion. “Sex is a body, mind and spirit prac­tice,” says sex ed­u­ca­tor Jenny Block. “When you are wholly in­volved on all fronts, ev­ery­thing hap­pens faster.” In­stead of moan­ing, talk­ing dirty or shout­ing, stay as silent as pos­si­ble – it’ll force your part­ner to be cre­ative, and find new ways to stim­u­late and con­nect with you.

Prac­tise mas­tur­ba­tion med­i­ta­tion

Say what now? Noisli (R29.99 on IOS and An­droid) is an app that lets you cus­tom-mix re­lax­ing or in­vig­o­rat­ing sounds with white noise. Con­struct your own de-stress­ing pre-sex sound­track to help get you in the mood or lis­ten during solo play for the ul­ti­mate chill-out ex­pe­ri­ence. Con­cen­trate on deep, slow breath­ing and focus on every sen­sa­tion as you ex­plore.

Swap ‘bored’ for ‘board’

A round of adults-only board game Tie & Tease can trans­form a grey evening into a Fifty Shades one. Roll the dice and work your way through the BDSMthemed chal­lenge cards, which en­cour­age you to ex­per­i­ment with spank­ing, dom­i­nance and sen­sory de­pri­va­tion in a low­pres­sure, fun way.

Get con­nected

To­tally worth break­ing the ‘no phones in bed’ rule, the Oh­mi­bod (Free on IOS and An­droid) turns your phone into a re­mote con­trol for the vi­bra­tor. The Blue­tooth con­nec­tion works for lovers who want to play in the same room, but you can up­grade to the Wi-fi-en­abled con­trolled play, so even if you’re miles apart, you can still en­joy that ex­tra hour.

Go mi­cro

If your part­ner loves a back rub, but you find pum­melling their shoul­ders ex­haust­ing, try ‘mi­cro mas­sage’. Use the tips of your fin­gers to trace small cir­cles on their skin, start­ing be­hind the ears, then down the neck, across the col­lar­bone and shoul­ders, and down the spine. Add tiny tap­ping and press­ing mo­tions, but keep it light: it’s re­lax­ing and sen­su­ous for them, and ex­cuses you from the stren­u­ous stuff.

Be scent-sual

Want a new toy? Lelo has just re­leased Lily 2 (matil­das.co.za; R2 295), an up­dated edi­tion of it’s iconic Lily cli­toral vi­bra­tor, avail­able in three scented op­tions. When it first hit the mar­ket, Lily was the first vi­bra­tor de­signed not to look phal­lic, and it’s changed the shape of sex toys ever since. It’s lat­est in­car­na­tion boasts a high-power mo­tor, and is com­pletely wa­ter­proof – ideal for buzzing in the bath­room, the bed­room, wher­ever.

Try raunchy read­ing

Need some self-love in­spi­ra­tion? Fe­male-friendly porn site frol­icme.com of­fers erotic fiction and so­phis­ti­cated, cine­matic films show­ing real mod­els and real sex. Sto­ries are of­ten paired with movies, so you can read the tale, then watch it be­ing acted out.

Catch up on your zzzs

A study found that lack of sleep di­rectly af­fects your sex drive and how eas­ily we be­come aroused. An ex­tra hour of sleep led to a 14% in­crease in the odds of sex the next day and in­creased the ease with which women felt gen­i­tal arousal. Stress and sleep­de­pri­va­tion can im­pact your sex life, so en­joy the lie-in – and be grate­ful for it later.

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