See­ing the light

Good Housekeeping (South Africa) - - YOUR LIFE -

Re­fram­ing neg­a­tive self-talk (catas­trophis­ing, self-blame, blam­ing oth­ers and de­featist think­ing) is one tech­nique that can help you set your­self on a pos­i­tive path.

‘I’m late! I know my new boss will think I’m un­re­li­able.’ NEW THINK ‘I could not have fore­seen my car break­ing down. Of­fer­ing to dial in for the meet­ing will show her I’m not a flake.’ ‘My kitchen is flooded. I don’t know why I bother sav­ing money.’ NEW THINK ‘I saved money so I wouldn’t go into debt in an emer­gency. That was very smart of me!’ ‘I brought this break-up on my­self – I al­ways pick loser jerks.’ NEW THINK ‘Blam­ing my­self or my ex won’t make me feel bet­ter. What were some red flags that I’ll look out for next time?’

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