Seeing the light
Reframing negative self-talk (catastrophising, self-blame, blaming others and defeatist thinking) is one technique that can help you set yourself on a positive path.
‘I’m late! I know my new boss will think I’m unreliable.’ NEW THINK ‘I could not have foreseen my car breaking down. Offering to dial in for the meeting will show her I’m not a flake.’ ‘My kitchen is flooded. I don’t know why I bother saving money.’ NEW THINK ‘I saved money so I wouldn’t go into debt in an emergency. That was very smart of me!’ ‘I brought this break-up on myself – I always pick loser jerks.’ NEW THINK ‘Blaming myself or my ex won’t make me feel better. What were some red flags that I’ll look out for next time?’