‘How I got back on track’

These four women have been through a lot. This is what helped them find their joy again:

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‘Af­ter my hus­band died five years ago at 43, I be­gan prac­tis­ing rad­i­cal ac­cep­tance – accepting sit­u­a­tions as they are with­out judg­ment. Even though los­ing Robert was ter­ri­ble, wasn’t fair and wasn’t my fault, it hap­pened – there was no way around it. Forc­ing my­self to sim­ply un­der­stand that in my mind, body and heart al­lows me to fo­cus on build­ing a hap­pier life for my kids and me.’ — BARBARA KEMPE, 46 ‘A few years ago, I de­vel­oped alope­cia and lost all my hair, which was dev­as­tat­ing – I didn’t re­alise how much of my con­fi­dence came from my hair un­til it was gone. So I started talk­ing to a ther­a­pist. Some­times I’d just cry on the couch! Sim­ply slot­ting in time to process helped me get through those days.’ — DEVIN TOMB, 30 ‘I feel so much bet­ter when I can help other fam­i­lies in our sit­u­a­tion feel less alone. My two-year-old son was di­ag­nosed with a com­plex con­gen­i­tal heart de­fect – he’s had to have mul­ti­ple surg­eries and has faced end­less com­pli­ca­tions. It is be­yond dif­fi­cult, but when I be­gan shar­ing his story on var­i­ous plat­forms, I be­gan to feel a pur­pose and courage I hadn’t known I had.’ — COURTNEY PARKER, 30 ‘I was in a psy­cho­log­i­cally abu­sive mar­riage, in which my hus­band would un­der­mine my con­fi­dence as a mom. Af­ter I left him, I con­tin­ued to se­cond-guess my­self. What helped me more than any­thing was amaz­ing friends who I could call for re­al­ity checks – they val­i­dated my in­stincts un­til I knew in my heart that I was do­ing a great job with my kids.’ — ALEX G, 52

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