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WE’VE ALL BEEN THERE: YOUR COMMUTE HOME TOOK OVER AN HOUR, INSTEAD OF THE USUAL 35 MINUTES , which did nothing to calm you down after your boss yelled at you about a screw-up that wasn’t your fault but you helped sort out. You definitely pulled your shoulder at the gym yesterday and you might be getting a cold. You just want to watch The Bachelor SA and complain about Becky’s passive-aggressive emails but your partner has another idea.
They’re making flirty eyes, rubbing their hands all over you, whispering in your ear how horny they were all day thinking about you and they want to bone. Like, right now.
This very urgent I-need-you kind of advance would normally be more than welcome. But now it sounds like a lot of effort. You’re tired and cranky as hell, and you snap and say, ‘Can I get five minutes when I get home to just relax?’
And immediately, you watch your partner withdraw. Fuck.
Now their feelings are hurt and you’re apologising when you could’ve been enjoying your microwave meal.
Understandably, it’s unpleasant and hurtful to be rejected when initiating sex and it’s not great being the one who does the rejecting either. In the endeavour to avoid these bad feelings, initiating sex often becomes loaded with baggage. Many people fear that if they turn down sex, their partner will stop trying, so maybe they agree to sex they aren’t super into to avoid disappointing their boo. But researchers have found that having sex to avoid relationship issues hurts more than it helps.
The solution? Learn to turn your partner down in a way that won’t leave any lingering negative feelings. Now, there’s an ocean of difference between being into the idea of having sex, but not being fully turned on yet, and actually not wanting to have sex at all.
Sex where one or both partners aren’t in the mood to begin with (but willing to fool around) has been dubbed “maintenance sex”. Some couples schedule it, others stumble upon it on a Wednesday night. Many women have also been socialised to believe that straight men are going to want their bodies 24/7 – obviously an unfair stereotype – but it can make being turned down that much more emotionally charged. Even in the healthiest and freakiest of relationships, sex drives aren’t always going to match up, which is why couples need to figure out how to communicate ‘Mmmm, not tonight honey’ in the right way.
Here’s how to get it right.
Make it crystal-clear that you’re not down to bone. You aren’t obliged to give a reason to turn down sex. If you feel like giving one, great.
Be honest and clear. Don’t leave room for the other person to think you want some help getting in the mood if, in fact, you aren’t in the mood at all.
Then, acknowledge and encourage the intimacy of the moment. We all want to be wanted – especially sexually.
Part of what sucks about sexual rejection is that you’re not only being turned down for the physical connection but for the emotional one as well.
So let your partner know you still love and want them, even if you don’t want to bang right this minute. Your partner knows that, but you want to make them feel desired since they’ve just expressed a desire for you. If you’re up for it, other physical touch that isn’t sex usually works: back rubs, hugs, or a mini makeout sesh. You can also achieve the same goal verbally. Sit down with a bottle of wine and talk about your day. Your partner wants to connect with you – don’t shut that part down.
Suggest something else. If you’re really in a bad space and want absolutely nothing to do with your partner, you’re going to have to do some finessing here. Mention something your partner enjoys but suggest it for another time. ‘I’m sorry, but I really just need to be alone right now. I love you very much and hopefully this weekend we can ___.’ Fill in the blank with something you two enjoy, sexual or not. If you’re into hanging out with them, suggest what you’d like to do. ‘Let’s cuddle on the couch and finish The Good Place.’
You can also suggest something sexual if you like.
Just because you don’t want to have full-on sex now doesn’t necessarily preclude other sexadjacent activities. ‘I’m not up for sex right now, but I’d love to take a steamy shower with you,’ works perfectly fine.
Whatever you do, just please don’t be the guy looking at his phone mumbling, ‘Not tonight babe. Maybe some other time,’ while your partner does a sexy striptease. He’s the worst.