The ABCS of BDSM
THE WORLD OF BDSM CONTAINS NOT ONLY ITS OWN
SEX ACTS but its own highly-robust vocabulary too. ‘BDSM’ stands for bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, sadism and masochism – the core pillars of kinky fun. Beyond that, there’s a whole language to describe the consensual power exchange practices that take place under the BDSM umbrella. ‘Kink’ isn’t a language you can learn on Duolingo just yet, so here’s a glossary of the most common BDSM terms, from A to Z
Ais for Aftercare is is the practice of checking in with one another a er a ‘play session’ in which the BDSM has taken place.
BWhen the dominant partner ties up and restrains the submissive using ropes, belts and handcu s.
CA cuck is a man who enjoys, o en for submissive and erotic humiliation reasons, watching another man have sex with his wife.
Dis refers to dominance, submission and an erotic power exchange: while the dominant partner may do the slapping, namecalling or spitting, the submissive sets the boundaries.
Ee more taboo end of the BDSM spectrum. Everyone’s de nition is a little di erent, but knife play is a good example.
FA common fetish that involves worshipping feet, kissing, smelling, massaging or licking them, sucking toes or receiving a foot job.
When you lovingly shower your partner with your piss.
Hard limits are sexual acts that are o -limits and must be discussed before any BDSM play.
Iis refers to any impact on the body such as spanking, caning, ogging or slapping.
JShibari is a type of Japanese bondage where one partner ties up the other in intricate patterns using a rope.
Kis is the psychological thrill of gliding a knife along your partner’s body.
LYep, the BDSM community enjoys leather shorts, paddles, and corsets as much as you’d expect.
MSomeone who gets o receiving sexual pain.
NA form of edgeplay where needles – sterile and surgical-grade, of course – are used. Professionals may be asked to stick one through an erogenous zone or – back away now of you’re queasy – the sha of the penis.
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When the dominant partner will typically bring the submissive close or to the brink of orgasm, then stop. Repeat as necessary.
PA dope-ass submissive who knows what they want: pain!
QWhen a woman sits on her submissive’s face.
RRACK stands for Risk Aware Consensual Kink, the guidelines about the dangers of BDSM you consent to.
e name for someone who enjoys both the dominant and submissive role.
Tis is when a bottom (sub) tries to control the scene even though negotiations state they should submit.
UAside from pissing on a submissive or in their mouth, you can do other things with urine, such as ll up an enema and inject it up someone’s butt.
VA voyeur is someone who enjoys watching others have sex or undress. Not to be confused with peeping Toms.
WA little metal pinwheel that you can run over your partner’s nipples or other erogenous zones.
YBDSM is all about enthusiastic consent. e dominant partner won’t do anything to their submissive without a loud ass
‘yes, please!’
ZA skintight Japanese bodysuit made of lycra and nylon. It can cover the entire body, including the face. Athletes wear these, but some people get o on the sensation of being bound in tight fabric.
Enjoy your new vocabulary!