How to help your partner cope with depression

A clinical psychologist shares how to help your partner cope with depression

‘If the man in your life is struggling to cope, your love can play a crucial role’

THE SOUTH African Depression AND Anxiety Group (SADAG) SAYS that rates of depression among men in South Africa are at an all-time high. Men often don’t recognise depression in themselves.

It’s often a spouse or work colleague who first notices a difference.

Your encouragement and support can help your loved one cope with symptoms, and seek professional help and manage treatment if necessary.

how you can help Tease out the talk:

Talking is important, but men often suffer in silence or struggle to express their feelings. Encourage him to share his thoughts and feelings. Help him exercise and eat well: A balanced diet and getting enough sleep and daily exercise help manage stress, anxiety and depression.

Less drinking: Alcohol may be a form of self-medication for men with depression. The trouble is, it makes symptoms worse, which in turn may encourage more drinking. Seek out nurturing

relationships: Men who are anxious or depressed may shy away from social situations. Instead, encourage contact with people who are willing to listen and assist if necessary. Suggest hobbies or other interests: Encourage your man to do things he enjoys. Does he play music, watch documentaries or play golf? Find something for him to do – or you can do together – that might take his mind off things and rekindle his enthusiasm.

Help him relax: Suggest a gentle walk or to go for a massage. Listening to music or meditating are also good ways to unwind. Understand his lack of

interest in sex: Depression itself can affect sex drive or ability to orgasm, which is also a possible side-effect of antidepressants. Encourage him to discuss this with his doctor. professional advice

South African men are four times more likely to commit suicide than women, says the World Health Organisation. Proper treatment through medication and psychotherapy is essential for people struggling with depression. If depression goes on for a few weeks, affects his ability to function at work or in relationships with family and friends, or if he has thoughts about suicide or death, consult a medical professional as soon as possible. Feeling hopelessness, anger, apathy, an inability to concentrate and changes in sleep habits are also red flags. Support your loved one by Encouraging him to seek professional help:

Psychotherapy or counselling sessions can help him explore worrying issues. A psychiatrist can help with advice and decisions around medication. Reminding him to take his meds: Forgetting to take meds can lead to relapse or worsening symptoms. If he has a prescription for medication, help him stay on track by reminding him to take his pills.

your love matters

If the man in your life is struggling to cope, your love and support can play a crucial role in encouraging him to talk about it, take care of his emotional and mental health and get the professional help he needs.

Depression is a serious condition that should be treated. For more information, visit sadag.org