Zingu-60% izingane ezishoda ngoyise
kusekhona obaba abasebenza kude namakhaya.
UMnuz Thami Ngubeni, ongumsunguli wenhlangano Izingane Zobaba, uthe ayithusi eyalezi zibalo. Uthe wasungula le nhlangano ngenhloso yokukhuthaza obaba ukuthi basondelane nezingane.
“Nami ngakhula ngingenabo ubudlelwano obuqinile nobaba ngoba bekwaziwa ukuthi ngumama osondelana nengane. Siyazama ukukhipha lowo mqondo kodwa sekungcono manje sekunobaba abasebancane,” kuchaza uNgubeni.
Uthe ziningi izizathu ezenza obaba bangasondelani nezingane kodwa kumele kube yibona abenza imizamo. Ulinganise ngokuba matasa kobaba okwenza bangabi naso isikhathi esanele emakhaya.
“Ubaba kumele azakhele isikhathi nengane yakhe. Nami ngenza umsebenzi ongenza ngibe matasa ngibuye ngibe kude nekhaya. Ngazitshela ukuthi kungcono ukuthi njalo ekuseni kube yimina engihambisa ingane esikoleni. Uma ngisekhaya ngizinika isikhathi esanele sokudlala nayo nokwenza eminye imisebenzi nengane. Ngifunde ukuthi akulula ukuthi ingane ikhohlwe yinto eyifundiswe wubaba yingakho kubalulekile ukuba seduze nayo,” kusho uNgubeni.
UMnuz Sthembiso Dlamini onendodana angahlali nayo, uthe kuningi okumphuthile ekukhuleni kwayo ngenxa yokuqhelelana. Uthe ukusebenza kude nekhaya yikona okuyinkinga.
“Kubuhlungu ukuphuthelwa yizigaba zokukhula kwengane ngoba okuningi kwenzeka ungekho. Sekungcono manje ngoba sekunezinkundla zokuxhumana ezenza kube lula ukuxoxa nsuku zonke. Kwesinye isikhathi ngifika endlini sengikhathele kodwa ngiyazama ukuzinika isikhathi sokuxoxa nendodana kuWhatsApp ukuze ngazi ngokwenzeka empilweni yayo,” kusho uDlamini.
Yize kuvame ukuthi kugxekwe abesilisa ngokuziqhelelanisa kwabo nezingane zabo kodwa abanye bathi abazenzeli. Abanye abesilisa bathi bavinjwa ngonina bazo asebehlukene nabo. Idivosi ingesinye sezizathu okuthiwa senza obaba bangakwazi ukusondelana nezingane zabo.
Owesilisa oneminyaka engu-30 ongathandanga ukudalulwa, uthe useye enkantolo ukuze athole ilungelo lokubona ingane yakhe. Uthe selokhu ahlukana nonina wengane akakaze avunyelwe ukuyibona nokukhuluma nayo. Usola unina wengane ngokuthi ukhuluma kabi ngaye enganeni.
Akukona okokuqala ukuthi kuvele ukuthi izingane zikhula ngaphandle koyise kuleli. Eminyakeni emine edlule iHuman Sciences Research Council neSouth African Race Relations Institute bathola ukuthi bangaphezu kuka-40% omama abazikhulisela izingane ngabodwana. Kuvele ukuthi abanye obaba bakholelwa ekutheni bakhiphe imali kuphela kunokuzinika isikhathi nezingane.
Ongakwenza ukwakha ubudlelwano nengane:
Ukudlala nayo imidlalo eyikhonzile.
Ukuyifundisa imidlalo nemisebenzi oyithandayo.
Ukuyiphelezela uma iya esikoleni.
Ukuyisiza ngomsebenzi wesikole.
Ukubuka nayo imidlalo yethelevishini eyikhonzile.
Ukuzikhipha nibe nesikhathi sokuxoxa.