IS FOR rel­a­tives

Living and Loving - - FAMILY INSPIRATION -

Yes, we know you’d rather cud­dle her your­self, but you have to let your rel­a­tives share the magic of your baby at Christ­mas, too!

TAKE DEEP BREATHS

If your baby is four months or less, she’ll be happy to be held by most peo­ple. The per­son who’ll find it dif­fi­cult is you, and that’s en­tirely nor­mal. Be ra­tio­nal and re­mind your­self that you’re feel­ing anx­ious be­cause you love her, and who­ever is hold­ing her is tak­ing good care of her.

IF SHE CRIES, YOU’RE IN CHARGE

If you’re OK let­ting your rel­a­tive soothe her, that’s fine. But if ev­ery fi­bre of your body wants her back, take her.

RE­AS­SURE HER

Once your baby is five months old, she’ll be­come more aware of who’s hold­ing her. She’ll take her cue from you, though, so be con­fi­dent as you hand her over.

WATCH TO SEE WHEN SHE’S HAD ENOUGH

Stay close and if you spot her turn­ing her head away or arch­ing her back, sug­gest it’s time to come back for a cud­dle with Mom.

BE SEN­SI­TIVE TO SEP­A­RA­TION ANX­I­ETY

From the age of eight to nine months, she may be­gin to find it dif­fi­cult to be apart from you − even if you’re still in the same room. This can be tricky for rel­a­tives to un­der­stand, es­pe­cially if the last time they saw her she was all smiles and hugs. Ex­plain that it’s a phase she’ll grow out of.

LET HER BE SHY

If your tod­dler only wants to sit on your knee or hide be­hind your legs, that’s fine. Don’t apol­o­gise for her, and don’t push her to be­have dif­fer­ently. In­stead, of­fer re­as­sur­ance and say, “It’s fun to watch what every­body’s do­ing, isn’t it?”

SUP­PORT HER IN­DE­PEN­DENCE

As she gains in con­fi­dence, you’ll no­tice she looks back at you with big but­ton eyes when she’s head­ing off to in­ves­ti­gate some­thing or some­body. Don’t as­sume she wants your help. She’s look­ing to you to check that what­ever she’s do­ing is OK. Re­as­sure her with a big smile.

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