IS FOR relatives
Yes, we know you’d rather cuddle her yourself, but you have to let your relatives share the magic of your baby at Christmas, too!
TAKE DEEP BREATHS
If your baby is four months or less, she’ll be happy to be held by most people. The person who’ll find it difficult is you, and that’s entirely normal. Be rational and remind yourself that you’re feeling anxious because you love her, and whoever is holding her is taking good care of her.
IF SHE CRIES, YOU’RE IN CHARGE
If you’re OK letting your relative soothe her, that’s fine. But if every fibre of your body wants her back, take her.
Once your baby is five months old, she’ll become more aware of who’s holding her. She’ll take her cue from you, though, so be confident as you hand her over.
WATCH TO SEE WHEN SHE’S HAD ENOUGH
Stay close and if you spot her turning her head away or arching her back, suggest it’s time to come back for a cuddle with Mom.
BE SENSITIVE TO SEPARATION ANXIETY
From the age of eight to nine months, she may begin to find it difficult to be apart from you − even if you’re still in the same room. This can be tricky for relatives to understand, especially if the last time they saw her she was all smiles and hugs. Explain that it’s a phase she’ll grow out of.
LET HER BE SHY
If your toddler only wants to sit on your knee or hide behind your legs, that’s fine. Don’t apologise for her, and don’t push her to behave differently. Instead, offer reassurance and say, “It’s fun to watch what everybody’s doing, isn’t it?”
SUPPORT HER INDEPENDENCE
As she gains in confidence, you’ll notice she looks back at you with big button eyes when she’s heading off to investigate something or somebody. Don’t assume she wants your help. She’s looking to you to check that whatever she’s doing is OK. Reassure her with a big smile.