Women abuse: Who is to blame?

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We men con­tinue to aban­don women and break them. We abuse them and kill them, in­stead of pro­tect­ing them.

I don’t think we are wor­thy of women. We men cheat and do all sorts of things but our sis­ters for­give us and con­tinue to love us. If they cheated we’d never do the same.

A fel­low brother can sleep with the en­tire town and we call him “a real G”, a man among men and we praise him but we ha­rass a sis­ter who does the same and call her all sorts of de­mean­ing names.

We men are weak com­pared with women. We por­tray our­selves as be­ing su­pe­rior because, in fact, we’re hid­ing our in­fe­ri­or­ity. We abuse women and deny them op­por­tu­ni­ties because we seek to have them trapped in our pa­tri­ar­chal way of do­ing things for our own self­ish gain.

I’m scared of bring­ing a girl into this world where she’ll for­ever be a tar­get of hate and abuse from toxic young men like me.

The pa­tri­ar­chal so­ci­ety we live in is de­mean­ing towards those who carry us for nine months and bring us into this world. It’s heart­break­ing to read sto­ries about how young men abuse and kill women. Who should we young men blame for all this?

Do we blame it on the so­ci­eties we’ve been con­di­tioned into? Do we blame it on our fa­thers and un­cles? Or on our own cul­ture, which is de­mean­ing towards our sis­ters and moth­ers?

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