WILL SHE CHEAT?
You have sex 10 times a year or less, or she doesn’t orgasm.
Been awhile? You may blame stress, fatigue, or low T. But she may think it’s her, says Professor Alicia Walker, who talked with 46 cheating women for her book Secret Life of the Cheating Wife. Pick a neutral (clothed) moment to tell her why you’re avoiding sex. It’ll bring you closer and you can seek solutions together. In bed, be sure to focus on her pleasure as much as yours.
She shoulders more of the household duties than you do.
Many women told Walker they felt stuck in the wife role – nurturer, caretaker, household manager. With their lovers, they felt free to be self-focused. Don’t ask if she needs help; just help. And ask what she wants in bed. Cheating wives seem to be explicit with their lovers but not their husbands. Ask how much sex she prefers, what she’d like more of, and what new thing to try.