Slow = the big O.
Ever turn down sex? nah, you're a guy. Well a recent study in the journal Sex Roles says, sometimes Well, BS. Forty a recent Ever percent feign turn study down interest of in men the sex? to revealed journal appear Nah, you’re Sex that more Roles they a masculine guy. says comments or to from avoid the upsetting participants their below.) partner. Growing (See up, men are socialised to embrace their sexuality, to encourage and initiate sex, says study author professor Sarah Murray. They may feel compelled to have sex even when they’re not in the mood. That can lead to diminished desire in the long run. So let her know you’re not feeling it – and these are the key words – “right now”, Murray says. Offer an alternative (spooning, a movie) and a compliment. And initiate next time. “I’m pretty much ready all the time.” Michael, 33 “It’s how guys are built. A guy will not say no.” Sizwe, 55
“There is much that is not understood about men’s internal life. And I think in large part men are being shortchanged as being very simple creatures.” Robert, 40
“Guys think that if they don’t want it all the time they’re somehow inferior, or that they’re not going to look like a masculine male in front of their buddies – or potentially, in front of women as well.” Carl, 31
“I do feel a societal pressure as a man, that if I’m being a ‘real man,’ I should always want any sex that is available... When I say no to sex, and I do, there is a part of me that feels guilt.” Mandla, 33