16 Sade tack­les cy­ber­bul­ly­ing head-on

For­mer YO.TV pre­sen­ter and ac­tress opens up about be­ing a vic­tim of on­line ha­rass­ment and how she dealt with it

Move! - - CONTENTS - By Cher­rol Skosana

I’VE BUILT A THICK SKIN

CYBERBULLING is a se­ri­ous prob­lem that most peo­ple are fac­ing, es­pe­cially the youth who are very ac­tive on­line. But it is of­ten more rife in the Les­bian, Gay, Bi­sex­ual and Trans­gen­der (LGBT) com­mu­nity. In this day and age, some peo­ple tend to at­tack those who openly live their lives as gays and les­bians.

VIC­TIM OF CY­BER­BUL­LY­ING

For­mer YO.TV pre­sen­ter and ac­tress, Sade Gilib­erti, opens up about be­ing a vic­tim of cy­ber­bul­ly­ing and how she dealt with it.

“There have been odd mo­ments over the past few years. I was con­stantly think­ing what did I ever do wrong to that per­son that they can say such hate­ful things to me? There were times when I re­tal­i­ated,” she says.

Sade says she has healed and now she just deletes the com­ments that don’t serve her. She is so com­fort­able and happy with who she is that she doesn’t need to be told oth­er­wise by peo­ple who don’t know her.

“I’ve built a thick skin due to many rea­sons in my life – my ca­reer, my life­style and my men­tal health,” she ex­plains.

She ad­vises vic­tims not to give bul­lies the sat­is­fac­tion of see­ing them suf­fer. “Other bul­lies have deep-seated is­sues that the only way they know how to deal with them is to re­tal­i­ate and hate on oth­ers,” she says.

HER ROLE ON LGBTQ+

Sade has re­cently been fea­tured in a LGBTQ+ short film, where she plays the role of a work­ing woman, who is a les­bian and minds her own busi­ness. One day she gets a no­ti­fi­ca­tion on her phone, on an image she posted on so­cial me­dia and it’s an im­me­di­ate hate com­ment about her sex­u­al­ity and life­style.

The short film is LGBTQ+ com­mu­nity fo­cused be­cause they needed to bring light that as much as cy­ber­bul­ly­ing af­fects every­one, it af­fects the LGBTQ+ com­mu­nity more. She says there is a need for LGBTQ+ short films as they carry good lessons.

“I think the hard­est part for me about tak­ing this role is know­ing that the mes­sages that you hear in the film are all real mes­sages re­ceived by peo­ple within the LGBTQ+ com­mu­nity,” she ex­plains.

“It sad­dened me to know that peo­ple are re­ceiv­ing this kind of hate on their so­cial me­dia plat­forms.”

Sade feels that so­ci­ety still needs to be ed­u­cated about how hate speech con­trib­utes to the high rates of sui­cide and de­pres­sion.

“Peo­ple don’t re­alise that their words can be the last words that break the camel’s back. If you have noth­ing good to say, say noth­ing at all,” she shares.

She feels peo­ple tend to jump on band­wag­ons and put things that they don’t mean out there be­cause at the time they thought it was funny.

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