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Move! reader shares how her baby daddy left her to bury their son alone when he passed away

Move! - - CONTENTS - By Doreen Tu­batse*

IMET a guy who seemed de­cent, lov­ing and car­ing at the age of 16. I met him in Oc­to­ber 2015 and we started dat­ing. We had sex in Novem­ber that year. This was my first time and I fell preg­nant. My mother was so fu­ri­ous when I even­tu­ally gath­ered the courage to tell her about the preg­nancy.

BE­ING IN HOS­PI­TAL

On 16 Au­gust 2016, I gave birth to a baby boy but he got very sick and we had to spend three months in hos­pi­tal. Dur­ing that time, my baby daddy changed and be­came some­one I didn’t recog­nise.

He found a new girl­friend, dumped me and started call­ing me names. He said I was a fool for leav­ing school to take care of our son. He said he wanted to date some­one ed­u­cated.

I was deeply hurt be­cause he con­tin­ued with his life while I had to drop out of school to take care of our sick son.

LOS­ING MY SON

Our son was dis­charged from hos­pi­tal on 25 Novem­ber 2016. Af­ter that, he went in and out of hos­pi­tal be­cause he wasn’t get­ting any bet­ter. On 8 Jan­uary 2017, my baby passed away. In­stead of be­ing sup­port­ive, my baby daddy ac­cused me of killing the baby so that my fam­ily could get money from a life cover in­sur­ance.

This hurt me so much be­cause it was not true. I buried my child with­out any help from my baby daddy or his fam­ily. Al­though it was very dif­fi­cult for me, I de­cided to go back to school af­ter the death of my child. I re­peated Grade 11 and passed. I am now wait­ing for my ma­tric re­sults. I haven’t heard from my ex-boyfriend since the fu­neral and I’ve learnt to put my­self first and fo­cus on em­pow­er­ing my­self through ed­u­ca­tion. * Not her real name

I BURIED MY CHILD WITH­OUT ANY HELP FROM MY BABY DADDY

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