Becoming the Obamas
FROM smoking pot to a heartbreaking miscarriage, Michelle Obama is opening up about her younger years.
BEING the First Lady of the United States was one of her biggest achievements, but 20 years ago, Michelle and Barack Obama had other things going on. Now that they are out of the White House Barack Obama’s wife is opening up in her new memoir, Becoming; about life back in the day – before politics, before kids, and when smoking pot wasn't such a big deal to her.
Talking about her memoir recently, Michelle got emotional as she opened up about a very hard time in their lives – the difficulties she had falling pregnant, and a heartbreaking miscarriage that happened 20 years ago.
Describing that time in her life, Michelle says she felt ‘lost’ and ‘alone’ after suffering a miscarriage and undergoing in vitro fertilisation (IVF) to conceive her two daughters. In an interview on Good Morning America – talking about her new memoir, which has just been launched in the US – Michelle said she felt like she ‘failed because she didn’t know how common miscarriages were’ they’re not talked about, adding, “We sit in our own pain, thinking that somehow we’re broken.”
The 54-year-old revealed the pair had to do IVF to conceive their daughters Sasha and Malia, now 17 and 20, explaining that, because of her age at the time, she was worried about being able to get pregnant naturally. “The biological clock is real,” she said. “I realised that when I was 34 or 35 … we had to do IVF.”
But Michelle says at that time people didn’t speak about things like that – she never spoke about her pregnancies, miscarriage or fertility treatments. “I think it is the worst thing that we do as women, sit around and not talk about our bodies,” she noted, adding, “That’s one of the reasons why I think it’s important to talk to young mothers about the fact that miscarriages happen.”
But that’s not all she and husband Barack hid from people. While daughter Malia has made headlines for her so-called wild behaviour on more than one occasion – and has been snapped with marijuana – it seems her parents weren’t so innocent in their youth either.
In her memoir Michelle writes openly about everything from growing up in Chicago to confronting racism in public life and becoming the country’s first black first lady. But she also admits that the couple smoked pot as teenagers. She mentions an old high school boyfriend and says they ‘fooled around and smoked pot in his car’, as well as her husband’s ‘wilder’ days when he was younger and smoked marijuana while living in Hawaii. And when asked why she wanted to share this information, the former First Lady said she didn’t want to hide that from this generation. And of course, the book wouldn’t be complete without Trump’s name appearing somewhere. Michelle hit back at US president Donald Trump about questioning whether her husband was an American citizen, saying it was ‘crazy and mean-spirited’ – “It’s underlying bigotry and xenophobia hardly concealed. But it was also dangerous, deliberately meant to stir up the wing nuts and kooks.”
She also expressed disbelief over how so many women would choose a ‘misogynist’ over Hillary Clinton in 2016, saying she remembered how her body ‘buzzed with fury’ after seeing the infamous Access Hollywood tape in which Trump bragged about sexually assaulting women. Michelle also accused Trump of using body language to ‘stalk’ Mrs Clinton during an election debate.