Signs to watch out for

AT LEAST 75% of people who attempt suicide give some warning of their intentions to a friend or family member.

This is according to the South African Depression and Anxiety Group (Sadag), who further state the person may threaten to take his or her life.

“He or she may say things like, ‘I wish I was dead’ or something more subtle such as ‘nothing matters any more’. Feeling deeply depressed is another sign. He or she may feel hopeless, lose interest in work, have crying spells and not enjoy any of the things he or she used to like doing,” said the group’s media liaison officer, Kayla Phillips.

In addition, Phillips said those contemplating suicide may isolate themselves from family and friends or just be withdrawn.

“Some signs are more direct, like you would find someone preparing for death. For example, they may make unexpected changes in their wills or give away personal possessions. The person may experience changes in eating, sleeping or sexual habits.”

Phillips said it was important for loved ones to be supportive when they saw these signs.

“A person who is suicidal needs to know you care. Listen to them. Ask questions. Help the person discuss their feelings. Learn all you can about depression. You might be that person’s only source of information.”

She added that family must remind them that they should not feel ashamed or guilty.

“Avoid telling them things like ‘snap out of it’. Let them know their feelings are caused by an illness that can be treated. Invite them out. Realise they might not want to go at first. If they say no, ask them again later or offer to stay in and spend time with them.”

She said if you are worried they might be suicidal, ask them and get them help.

“A straightforward, caring question about suicide will not cause someone to start having suicidal thoughts. If they are thinking of suicide, don’t promise secrecy. Tell someone you trust immediately.”

Phillips said talking to the person about attending a support group meeting could help them learn they are not alone. “Make sure they do not have access to things that can cause injury, like knives, guns, alcohol or drugs. Do not take responsibility for making your friend or family member well. You are not a therapist.”