A time to re­mem­ber those who have lost loved ones

Post - - OPINION - KEVIN GOVEN­DER Shall­cross

A NEW year has be­gun, so let us spare a thought for those who have lost loved ones.

One such fam­ily who will be im­mersed in grief and pain is the Sukhraj fam­ily from Shall­cross who lost their lit­tle girl, Sa­dia, in a hi­jack­ing last year.

The tor­ment and the wait con­tin­ues un­abated as the court will re­veal this year whose bul­let killed the child.

Shailendra Sukhraj shot at the flee­ing hi­jack­ers with his daugh­ter still in the car. It is hu­man na­ture for con­jec­ture and scut­tle­butt to brew, but who are we to judge?

Per­haps the child’s par­ents can find some so­lace in a book writ­ten by Dr Adam Mo­hammed, ti­tled Jour­ney into the Un­known, which tells the story of how he and his wife coped with the death of their three daugh­ters, killed in a mo­tor ve­hi­cle ac­ci­dent, in a car he was driv­ing.

I quote from the for­ward of the book: “This is a story of how two peo­ple cope with a calamity of epic pro­por­tions and emerge se­verely wounded but un­bowed. One can only marvel at the dig­nity with which they both han­dled their grief. Through it all, they re­tained their san­ity and main­tained a saintly deco­rum – a salu­tary les­son to all who ex­pe­ri­enced im­mense grief.”

Grief is a jour­ney, not a des­ti­na­tion. You have a choice – ei­ther agony in which you go back and try to re-as­sess the past or you can re-in­vent your lives and move for­ward.

Win­ter al­ways gives way to spring­time. Your storms will pass and your win­ter will thaw. Through your un­wa­ver­ing faith in God, you will be cleansed of your painful bur­den.

| LUCA ZENNARO ANSA VIA AP

A TRUCK stuck on a rem­nant of the Mo­randi high­way bridge in Genoa, Italy, which col­lapsed in Au­gust last year. A reader sug­gests South Africans should de­vote 2019 to re­build­ing bridges.

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