Han­dling manic morn­ings like pros

In the spirit of back to school to­day, Maya Jagji­van Kalicha­ran shares some manic morn­ing throw­backs by way of en­cour­age­ment to mums…

Post - - LIFESTYLE - Kalicha­ran is a jour­nal­ist by pro­fes­sion and a free­lance ra­dio pro­ducer for Lo­tus FM’s pop­u­lar week­day talk show, Walk the Talk. You can tune in to the show from Mon­day to Thurs­day from 7pm to 8pm. Fol­low her on Twit­ter @maya_­jag and on her blog, in­my­word

MANIC! That best de­scribes my morn­ings as a mother. If you are slowly rais­ing your hand and say­ing me too – then read on.

If you’re a dad or a par­ent-to-be or some­one who is cu­ri­ous by na­ture, I hope I can give you some in­sight into the not-so­typ­i­cal morn­ings for moth­ers – be­cause ev­ery day, there’s bound to be some drama and in dif­fer­ent doses.

What makes your morn­ings so crazy and in­tense?

Do you iron school clothes in the morn­ings or the night be­fore? What about mak­ing lunch? I won’t judge you for your choices. It’s about be­ing hon­est about what works best for you.

And then what about those Mon­day morn­ings when the black shoes are cov­ered in dust from the week be­fore and haven’t been pol­ished af­ter all the week­end ac­tiv­i­ties?

That was me one day.

But for some rea­son, I just stayed calm and got the job done my­self. Or­di­nar­ily, I would be scream­ing at both my son and hus­band and wak­ing the neighbours up. I’m a morn­ing per­son thanks to the early morn­ings work­ing as a jour­nal­ist, and I rel­ish it!

For those morn­ings when I am feel­ing not so chirpy, a quick hot shower does the trick and I’m ready to open out my lungs again to coax my son to wake up. He loves school, so that’s half the bat­tle won. And be­lieve me, it is a bat­tle to get him to move at a fast pace.

I re­mem­ber one Mon­day morn­ing, even with the curve ball of the dirty shoes thrown at me, we beat the traf­fic and ar­rived at school be­fore 7am. I was sur­prised.

That hadn’t hap­pened in a good few months. I had de­cided to park at a garage nearby – to make my­self look more pre­sentable and yes to buy cof­fee. I earned it af­ter the morn­ing rush – said in the voice of a self-con­fessed cof­fee-holic!

At the garage, there were many other mums, sit­ting in their cars. As I reached for my brush to go through my dishevelled hair, I no­ticed at least three other mums do­ing their hair and makeup, just like me. I thought to my­self – it’s not just a co­in­ci­dence.

That right there was proof that, as moth­ers, morn­ings are mis­sions – which we do ac­com­plish. We all rush to get our chil­dren to school on time and make a men­tal note that we can al­ways worry about our ap­pear­ances later.

And we stash our high heeled shoes for our of­fice look in our boot and drive in our slip­pers, some­times bed­room slip­pers.

Ah! Talk­ing about those, al­low me to share this story with you…

Fri­days are usu­ally my day off, make that “Friyayyyys” for me! But one Fri­day, my hus­band had to be at work ear­lier than usual, leav­ing me to do the morn­ing school run, with just five min­utes no­tice! And so I did what I have never done be­fore, bear­ing in mind that Fri­day traf­fic is dread­ful. I put on my warm, fluffy bed­room shoes, I brushed my teeth and got into the car in my py­ja­mas. I was mind­ful that the polka dots on pink fleece could alert oth­ers to my out-of-sync at­tire so I threw on a pretty pink shawl to cam­ou­flage the top.

I went un­de­tected in my py­ja­mas, got back home and into bed. Of course, I couldn’t sleep, so I did the laun­dry!

Moth­er­hood re­ally is a maze and amaz­ing! It’s about how you nav­i­gate those straight and curvy roads and the many turns along the way.

At the heart of it is your love for your child or chil­dren that will see you do­ing things you wouldn’t or­di­nar­ily do. Face it, there’s noth­ing or­di­nary about be­ing a mother. It’s an ex­tra­or­di­nary role that must be saluted.

Let’s cel­e­brate the phe­nom­e­non of moth­er­hood. If you have for­got­ten to ac­knowl­edge your­self, let me do it for you – well done mum for all that you do! Now, let’s get an­other manic morn­ing started…


WIN­NING MUMS!Maya Jagji­vanKalicha­ran with her son, Ke­shav, at school last year on sports day. She salutes par­ents in the col­umn as we head into the 2019 school year.

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