A MUST FOR MARRIED COUPLES

VETERAN actor Jerry Mofokeng has the uncanny knack of writing as he speaks: descriptively with lots of drama, vivid illustrations and an unabashed frankness.

In his easy-to-read and use manual, aptly titled In

Love & Intimate, Mofokeng effortlessly articulates his thoughts and opinions about marriage, intimacy, mutual respect or the ideal ingredients for a perfect marriage.

Using himself – and his wife Claudine and their marriage of 35 years – as an example, as well as the various life lessons they have learnt along the way, Mofokeng replicates most of the things the couple has learnt.

They are also marriage counsellors and coaches.

True to his Christian upbringing, Mofokengs ’ narrative is replete with Biblical illustrations.

These are adequately supported by other common or real-life examples.

Most of these examples are based on the couple ’ s unique experiences which are juxtaposed with the things they did to overcome the problems they encountered.

Mofokeng and his supportive wife also guide and teach readers the basics that they might have missed after falling in love, getting married and allowing complacency to over- whelm them. Mofokeng says such situations normally force a couple to endure a loveless marriage.

The Mofokengs advise couples to gently keep nudging each other in the right direction.

They also advisce couples to do a number of things together like just hugging each other and cuddling without expecting anything, or sitting outside and counting the stars or analysing the moon ’ s various shapes.

They say couples must not only be married lovers, but a functional, married couple that is dutifully raising kids and running a family.

They say those among us who are prepared to learn afresh the game of love – loving and being loved – ought to give In Love &

Intimate a chance.